Weddings on tv...do or dont

[tinkerbell23]

I watch these progs on wedding competitions etc

Do u think

If u r having a wedding abroad should you pay guests flights or even just wedding party? Accomodation? Bridesmaids etc?

Free bar? Yay or ney?

Mum always told me "gift wise" ...to "cover ur own meal" as in if meal would cost £50 then at least £50 as a gift x

[bednobs]

but how do you know how much the meal is going to cost?

[daffy654]

I wouldn't get married abroad but if I did I would only take my daughters and their children, my son and stepson. I would pay for all inclusive accommodation and flights but they could pay for any extras themselves.

[tinkerbell23]

Estimate bednobs....x

[vodkancoke]

I've been to a few weddings abroad and always had to pay for flights and accomodation....I wouldnt expect them to pay for it! My cousin got married in Italy and paid for all the wedding party.

Gift-wise, it would depend who it was, but I would normally spend between £50 and £100.

[China Doll]

If I ever get married then I would like it to be abroad on a beach with just me and the person I'm marrying, I don't particularly want anyone else there at all as the day should be about two people and bugger all the rest of it. (Plus the idea of a 'seating plan' sends me absolutely apoplectic, you're an adult and you can find your own effing seat!) I would then have a big party when I come home for family and friends (proper friends, not someone you see twice a year at someone elses do and always say you'll keep in touch with but don't).

Free bar? Put £100 behind bar, when that runs out they can buy their own. I'm not paying for people to get p!ssed up.

Gift wise I either look at the list if they have one and pick something in my price range from there or I would buy something personal depending on who is getting married.

My general feeling is that weddings are too expensive and too much importance is put on them. It should just be about two people who are in love and making a promise to each other and not the dress, party, cars, cakes, flowers and all the other crap people seem to think is important.

[vodkancoke]

CD I totally agree with you. If I ever got married, it would have to be abroad, just me and he. I have too many in my family for all that! I would have a party when I got back too. And sod the seating plans! lol

[China Doll]

I literally go in to full on rant mode when people start talking about seating plans at weddings or how stressed they are... have no idea why they irritate me so much but they really do! I feel a bit angry just typing this. I clearly have issues...

[sunny-dave]

I'm very worried - CD seems to have read the inside of my brain rather too accurately & there is other stuff in there that she doesn't need to know :+0

At least it saves me going into 'rant mode' myself - and no CD, you & I don't have 'issues' - it's all the others who are plainly barking ....

[albaqwerty]

I didn't give a monkeys about the seating plan. My late MIL made more of a fuss.

We did put money behind the bar and after it ran out, folk had to buy their own but had been told of that.

[pastafreak]

I'm an 'oldie'-but I am totally with CD on this. Weddings have always been 'big business',but it is totally out of control now. I've been married twice-the first was in church with only immediate family-it was followed by a meal out. No bridesmaids, or ushers...or any other 'extras'.
The second was in a registry office-with a family/friends party at home. I *sometimes* regret not doing the traditional big wedding-but what I did do was enjoyable and memorable....that's what matters.
I know my daughter-if she ever marries-will do the same.

[fliptheswitch]

Lol CD. I think you may need to talk to someone about those issues of yours! :)

I would want it abroad, too... with nobody but my children present. Oh, and the man obviously.
It wouldn't be a case of not wanting to pay for peoples flights, but more a case of I really couldn't be bothered with it all.
I hate fuss.

Free bar is a nice touch, but doubt I'd do it.

I went to a wedding in the summer which had a free bar, and people just took the Fosters. I couldn't believe people were ordering shots, and extra glasses of champagne. It's just taken advange.

With regards to gifts, I usually just get vouchers. When I got married, I asked for people to make donations to out local hospice. Some people didn't take any notice, and just got us stuff we didn't need, but the majority of people gave cheques made out to them, which was really nice.

[pastafreak]

" When I got married, I asked for people to make donations to out local hospice. Some people didn't take any notice, and just got us stuff we didn't need, but the majority of people gave cheques made out to them, which was really nice."

What a lovely gesture,flip

[ummmm]

I'd do the same as CD....except 'he' might put a bit more money behind the bar.

[fliptheswitch]

I thought so, Pasta :-)

[cathfromsaron]

the weddings abroad my friends have had have either been an intimate/small do doubling as the honeymoon OR a long planned larger family holiday!

as far as i know everyone went dutch, apart from the reception!

i would think hard, because many elederly rellies can't travel and heat doesn't always mix well with full wedding regalia!

cath x

[tinkerbell23]

Sorry! Was out last night & dozed off hahahh

I dnt think u have to pay flights- mum thinks u do for the wedding party? Way i c it is id be going anyhow wedding party or not!

Always money behind bar - if i could afford a free one i guess i would!

Oh and im not gettin married! I need a man hostage first LOL
xcxx