ChatterBank2 mins ago
My neighbour had a baby
19 Answers
in November 2011, i text her to say congrats and if she needed anything, i.e cleaning tidying shopping etc. She replied to me and said no thanks, and she will let us know when we can visit. She still hasnt invited us over and now its march 2012. She text to say she is pacing herself and letting her mum spend time with the little one. All her friends have visited, and other neighbours, but she didn't have time for me to pop by. this has upset me, because the other neighbour said she told her she could come round any time. But why not me? do you think its because im Pakistani, and she doesn't want to interact with me. I sent her a card and even bought an outfit for the baby, but too small now, and i am feeling terribly upset by the whole thing. Am i being silly? Im so sad that i can not seem to make friends, what is wrong with me? i have had a crap life, no friends, and even at work, others seem to have an ally to go in the corner and chat with, but no one is close like that with me. Why?
Answers
Best Answer
No best answer has yet been selected by rozia. Once a best answer has been selected, it will be shown here.
For more on marking an answer as the "Best Answer", please visit our FAQ.
-- answer removed --
Maybe you're trying too hard with people? It may sound mean but that can be off putting.
And with the best will in the world, I wouldn't invite my neighbours over so they could see my baby because they are my neighbours and not my friends. If you can be friends with your neighbours then that's nice but it's just not always possible.
Try to focus on what is good about you and just write this off. It's really not a big deal and concentrate on just being a nice and happy person and don't try to please people all the time either. Just be yourself and you'll be fine.
And with the best will in the world, I wouldn't invite my neighbours over so they could see my baby because they are my neighbours and not my friends. If you can be friends with your neighbours then that's nice but it's just not always possible.
Try to focus on what is good about you and just write this off. It's really not a big deal and concentrate on just being a nice and happy person and don't try to please people all the time either. Just be yourself and you'll be fine.