Do you have a member of family that has you running around after them or is no help?

[Jenarry]

I certainly do. i have two people in my close family who are really bothering me at the moment.
i'm feeling really wound up right now and i could go on a long rant about it but i won't.
My bf says that i've just got to accept that they are people who are just happy to not be doing much and who put in little effort.
i can cope with this and the running around after them but sometimes it gets too much (like tonight). especially if it starts affecting others around me. :O(

[naomi24]

//Do you have a member of family that has you running around after them//

I have one who tries it - and who used to get away with it - but I learnt to say 'No'. Unless it's urgent, I do it at my own pace now.

[jno]

first step for me would be to drag my brother into a bank and get him to set up an account for himself.

[bravejordy]

Jenarry you remind me a lot like my sister, she has a Grandson who walks all over her. She pays his Sky subscription because "he can't get a bank account". She pays his car insurance among other things, using her credit card and then he'll do the disappearing trick when he's due to pay her back and she'll wait weeks, sometimes months, before he pays back the money he owes... But then it'll start all over again and my sister will do it all over again. Personally, and like others have said, you need to put your foot down with a firm hand (as my Dad used to say). Your brother CAN get a bank account if he makes the effort but obviously he won't do this while you're bailing out week after week. Believe me, I've said the same thing to my sister and I think she's finally beginning to realise that her Grandson is just using her. I know it's an old cliché but sometimes you do have to be cruel to be kind. I don't wish to appear morbid but if you were to die tomorrow I bet he'd soon find a way to get a bank account in order to get his dole. Take the advice of many given here and don't put up with it any longer.

[cathfromsaron]

i have certainly had to lay the law down, and refused lifts and loans to people!

if you are being taken disadvantage of, STOP letting them!

[Jenarry]

I've just read through this again as this is still bothering me. Particularly my mum right now. :O(
I just wanted to say a thankyou for everyone's advice. some changes are afoot or at least an attitude change on my part.