Getting back into things.

[Cockney_si]

I guess I never really stopped loving someone a while back after we broke up and now I've been seeing then again recently after all these years i'm wondering:-
Where does love go when you suppress it?

Has anyone ever got back with someone after several years apart? Did it work?

I'm not rushing into anything but it's interesting to hear from you lot.

[Laurinha]

Hi Si. I don't think it's possible for anyone to just stop loving someone after you've broken up. I recently broke up with my boyf of over four years and I know that I will always love him. I guess the love is always there but over time you just think about it less and less as the person plays an increasingly smaller role in your life and in your thoughts.

I don't see why things couldn't work out for you if you got back together. You will both probably have changed a lot as people over the last couple of years and have probably done a lot of thinking about what drove you apart in the first place so might now be in a situation where you won't make the same mistakes again!

I guess you just have to make sure that you don't fall into any of the same (negative) routines as before. Remember that you have both matured as people and there will be new things to find out about each other just like when you meet a 'new' lover.

I say good luck to you - If it feels right, just do it.

[rampart]

My girlfriend and I dated for quite a while, but had some issues. My problem was trying to balance time between girlfriend and my mates, and she had her own set of minor issues. Combined, however, our problems were enough for us to break up.

I dated several ladies after her, and never found one that I cared for. I did not think that I felt love for her, but perhpas I did. I do know that each girl was compared to her.

Two years later, we got back together, really quite by accident, and we had a different respect for our relationship. We talked for hours, then met again for lunch with some friends, then started dating again. We dated for several months, became engaged, and married.

We have been married now for several years and have lovely children. I am quite mad about her, and though we neither one are perfect, we are quite suited for eachother.

So I would say yes, it is entirely possible. We had two complete years apart with absolutely no contact.

I could not say where love goes during that time. I think I put it on a shelf and brought it out only to compare it to my feelings I had for the other girls I dated. No comparison - hers won entirely.

She and I both had to change, and did, during that two year period. And we also had time to think about what we truly felt for one another and what we wanted in a mate.

Best of luck to you.

[funnywebsite]

It is nice to have a second chance with someone make the most of it. There are a lot of people who work love a second chance with somebody.

[dove]

rampart, what a lovely answer, very happy for you an Mrs. Rampart, hope this gives you some encouragement cockney si x

[yellowduck]

Los susprios son aire

Y van al aire

Las lagrimas son agua

Y van al mar

Dime mujer: Cuando el amor se olvida,

Sabes tu adonde va?

I love this Spanish poem. Means: Breath is air and goes into the air, tears are water and go to the sea. Tell me woman: when love is forgotten, where does it go?

Probably doesn't help much. Sorry!