c s a and ex partner

[neil_loves_marie]

csa take £300 p/month out my wages without any hassle but now i feel i need help in not paying on some improper behaviour by my ex or another condition.

i have no problem doing this as its money to support my kids.

i haven't seen them for almost a year as my ex doesn't want me seeing them and access stopped when i lost my job last year and couldn't pay her £50 p/wk.

yesterday was my youngest sons b'day and i sent a family member round friday night with presents and a card as i didn't want the argument.

saturday morning my mom woke up to find my card and gifts unopened left on her bonnet.

i have rang csa to explain why is my gifts/cards etc not good enough but my £300 p/month perfectly ok.

what can i do to get csa to see the real side of her and allow me a bit of leeway on maintenance payments, i feel i shouldn't pay has the return of my gifts without giving them to him is a step too far when i'm having £300 p/month took out my wages.

csa told me on the phone when i rang them that i still have to pay regardless of how i feel about the incident that has happened about what i've put above.

[bednobs]

the whole thread is asking how he can stop paying -

[neil_loves_marie]

the thread is asking 2 questions!!!

1- having been through courts and still being refused access what are my next avenues as i no longer have spare cash to throw at a solicitor like i did a few years ago when i was earning £30k a year.

2- is it fair that i'm forced to pay my way, yet nobody is forcing her to follow court orders..

where's the fairness and i have had no problems paying for the last 11 months without seeing them but what she did the weekend was a step too far in my book yet to all organisations she's a HERO...

[bednobs]

1) can you do what BM's fiance did and reprsent yourself?
2) not at all

[zidan]

hi there i am in the same boat i pay maintenance but no access to my children. tried csa as she had moved the children without my knowledge, they couldnt care less all they are concerned with is taking the money.when asked i need to know where my children are answer:cant divulge into this info . a load of rubbish is the csa.

[neil_loves_marie]

zidan, that happened to my m8, his ex cheated n ran off with someone else. moved away from the area and chases him via csa to make payments yet he doesn't have a scooby where his daughter is.

the whole system is wrong and is there for the women to take advantage of.

please feel free to add my FB group regarding this.

http://www.facebook.c...oups/204256966364149/