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joko | 17:36 Fri 06th Jan 2006 | People & Places
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At a party a while ago, they got out a karaoke machine. after a few drinks they got me on it & even though I'm a bit shy I'm actually a really good singer & loads of people were surprised & complimented me a lot, however, after a while everyone started joining in with everyone else & we all started doing duets, trios, quartets etc, which was great & i was having a ball, but i also noticed that some of the other girls who had okay voices were taking it a bit too seriously & getting a bit irritated by me, & giving me weird little looks - even though i didn't even have the microphone (my voice is quite soulful & loud so didn't want to deafen anyone, & i don't like being too booming anyway!) I was encouraging them all & saying how good they all were (no-one was terrible)
Problem is, rather than thinking "oh i better stop as they don't like it", it thought, "I'm enjoying myself & if they're jealous thats their tough sh*t" & carried on
Should i have bowed out & been annoyed at them for getting petty about drunken karaoke? or did i do the right thing & refuse to be intimidated by something so silly & unreasonable? i was quite drunk & probably would have stopped if sober but was emboldened by alcohol
& before i get "perhaps you can't sing" they were all saying how great i was at the start, & so were all the guys there. a few said I should definitely do something with it
this isn't about the singing - why didn't i try to preserve my friendships with these girls & think about their feelings (we are not close friends) why did i think " tough, its not my fault, why should I apologise for having a good voice?"
I feel i was doing nothing wrong, but is that what matters?
we haven't fallen out, but i feel bad about it - but i haven't been to any parties there since, but then i don't know if they have had any...
any thoughts?

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I think you are OK on this - people do get annoyed with anyone who is better at these things than they are, but that really is their problem not yours!


Why should you stop enjoying yourself just to save the faces of people are are really taking it all a bit too seriously.


You did no harm, and if people are 'off' with you, it says more about them than you. Enjoy yourself - and sod the miserable faces - they are not your close friends, life's too short to worry about what they think.

I agree with andy, it's a natural human reaction to be jealous or scornful of someone who can do better than you, and this emotion is definitely heightened tenfold by the addition of alcohol. It was a party, you were having fun, so to heck with the others. Sounds like these girls are used to being the center of attention and didn't enjoy it when someone else took the spotlight away from them for a bit.
Well as long as you didn't get conned into singing "Puff the Magic Dragon".....which happened to me once with a karaoke thing..I wouldn't worry in the least. !! If you had a good time that's the main thing.!

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