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My friend's dad has been diagnosed with terminal cancer; it's in his bones and they don't yet know how bad he'll be or how long he might have left (hopefully not too bad, and he'll be here for a long time, obviously!). However, he looks after his wife, my friend's mam, on a day to day basis - she is blind, wheelchair-bound and has lung failure and is on oxygen. My friend cannot do as much as she would like, as she has two autistic children who need their routines. Her husband works. I've suggested MacMillan to her as they helped with my sister-in-law's needs. Will they help her contact Social Services, or should she do that herself do you think? It's all a bit in the air at the minute, as the diagnosis was yesterday but I don't want her to miss out on any help she can get....
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Misky, I would disagree with that being true in all cases.
I have a 93 year old aunt who lives alone. She has had a slow growing bladder cancer for years. Two days ago, after several falls she was taken into hospital. They found the cancer has spread to her spine and now her brain, hence the falls. I have had a phone call to say they are sending her home today. When I pointed out that I live 100 miles from her and she has no one to provide immediate care, their answer was "we need the bed."
I have a 93 year old aunt who lives alone. She has had a slow growing bladder cancer for years. Two days ago, after several falls she was taken into hospital. They found the cancer has spread to her spine and now her brain, hence the falls. I have had a phone call to say they are sending her home today. When I pointed out that I live 100 miles from her and she has no one to provide immediate care, their answer was "we need the bed."
//We moan about the benefits system //
I don't moan about it - I moan about the stupidity of a system that allows such appalling abuse - and about the many who take advantage of that. However, the case in question is precisely what it should be for, and I hope these people get all the help that's available to them.
I don't moan about it - I moan about the stupidity of a system that allows such appalling abuse - and about the many who take advantage of that. However, the case in question is precisely what it should be for, and I hope these people get all the help that's available to them.
naomi, I have been on the phone to my bone idle, lazy cousin (her daughter) and told her to get her finger out and sort it. My aunt doesn't get any help at all and the hospital have not set up any sort of care package.
My aunt is a stubborn old thing and will have convinced the hospital she doesn't need any help. She can be very convincing.
My aunt is a stubborn old thing and will have convinced the hospital she doesn't need any help. She can be very convincing.
