Feel Terrible

[murraymints]

Just ...Well a bit now...have found I was at the scene of a fatal rtc..nothing I could do but...

[Bbbananas]

Minty, that's awful. For those involved and for you to witness. I'll no doubt be shaken for a while. Bless you x

[queenofmean]

Thank you desky :) xx

[rockyracoon]

MM, Queenie, how awful for you both.

Sending hugs.

[lady-janine]

minty i had not reealised you had witnessed that accident just thought you knew about it as it was local. what an awful shock for you. how very traumatic. but i am so glad you were able to give her some comfort, however brief. hugs for both you and queenie. ((((()))))
omg everything i think of to say sounds so banal to my ears.
please believe i am thinking of both of you and will light candle for you two and girls parents.

[Ann]

How sad for both of you MM and Queenie. My thoughts are with you both, bless you xx

[murraymints]

Still" have rewinds in my head....Queenie...she was not alone.....when I arrived ....very soon after...she was with God.......but said my prayer over her...she is with God now...so sorry ....wish I could have done more......

[nungate]

Minty talk to me.

[AlwaysConfused]

Minty, stop beating yourself up. I'm sure if there was anything you could have done to save that life then you would have. Have you had any sleep?

[murraymints]

Nun....I'm just like you...she was so young.....had so much to give..only a few yards from mum....I can't close my eyes without seeing her....not a sight for a mum....I didn't know her...but ....can't won't ever forget....

[nungate]

I know it was a horrible thing to experience, she was a lovely lassie, Queenie will always remember her laugh. This is something you have to try and put to one side, it'll always be with you but in time it'll be just a distant bad memory.
Meantime, you have to focus on the now. I think you might like to chat with a grief counsellor or someone like that, just telling someone who is totally unconnected with everything that's gone on over the past few days might be a help, just unloading would be good. What about writing yourself a letter detailing what you remember, what you did and how you felt about it then, when you've done that either store it away somewhere or better still burn it.
Or you can just unload here on AB, I wish I could just give you a big hug.
N x

[murraymints]

Nun...wish you were here...huge hugs needs..I just feel so fragile ....brings it all home..

[fredkins]

I do feel a bit stupid ,but what is rtc,Is It road traffic collision?

[nungate]

You know Minty, in the dark of the night everything seem to be amplified and worse than they actually are, it'll seem a lot better in the morning when we are all so busy just getting on with things that we have no time to dwell upon all the bad things that have happened. All you have to do is get through tonight, and things will seem easier in the morning. Queenie has finally gone to bed and I hope she sleeps tonight, it all got to her last night (well that and her gastric problems) but she's more concerned about you tonight. We were chatting about how you were feeling on our way into the hospital tonight.
My own feelings are that you have so much going on in your life at the moment, you are worried about your dear old Dad, he's been, and is, very ill, and on top of all that you happened to be a witness at that awful accident, that took the life of a beautiful young woman. All you have to do is get through tonight and we'll worry about what happens tomorrow, when it comes

[murraymints]

Thanks nun..I am humbled xxx

[nungate]

hello Fredkins. Yes, it was a road accident. Minty was there at the time of the
crash and then she realised today that the victim was a schoolfriend of my daughter, Queenofmean who posted about losing her friend in the accident on Sunday.

[cupid04]

much love to everyone who is suffering right now. My thoughts are with you all. may you feel all the love that is reaching out to you just now.
may you all find peace of mind. [HUGS].xxxxxxxx

[nungate]

och away wi ye Minty!

Now, are you going to be alright? Best beloved is having a bite of supper and he'll be expecting me to toddle off up to bed soon. I can stay around if you need me to, I don't have to get up early so I'm at your disposal, otherwise I'll just have me hot choccie (he spoils me) and I'll be off. Let me know

[murraymints]

Nighty night nun.xx.love you two....xx

[nungate]

Night, night Minty, try and sleep now. Queenie is off to the doc first thing but I'll be floating around at some point in the morning if needed - email her and I'll get online ok?
lots of love N (Queenie too!) x