> Abortion on the grounds of sex selection is technically legal, in as much as there doesn't need to be a reason except the wishes of the mother. As it affects her.
No, that is not the law. It is certainly illegal to have an abortion on the grounds of sex selection in and of itself.
If anybody was going to be prosecuted in the case the article refers to, it was the two doctors who agreed the abortion - not the mother who asked for it. They still may be prosecuted and, if they are, their defence will be that in their professional opinion not providing an abortion would have affected the mental wellbeing of the woman. Their defence would certainly not be that abortion on the grounds of sex selection is legal, because it isn't.
The reason the doctors weren't prosecuted was because it was felt that it "wasn't in the public interest" to prosecute - possibly because it would open up the can of worms we are discussing here.
> I think the limit should be brought down for on-demand abortions to about 12 or 14 weeks
The situation is that we have a woman who will suffer mental anguish if she does not have an abortion. So if we reduce the limit so that she has to suffer that mental anguish, then in her case we've effectively just removed the reason why the abortion law exists in the first place. This could re-introduce the problems that the abortion law was designed to solve, e.g. backstreet abortions. As the pro-choice Ann Furedi puts it "You can't be pro choice except when you don't like the choice".
> circumcision does not affect the parents, so forcing it on a child for no reason other than "we want to" is not the same
You may feel that "circumcision does not affect the parents" but that's a very big reason why parents do arrange for their boys to be circumcised - not for the boy, but for the parents; which is also a very big reason why many (prospective) parents arrange for an abortion - not for the child, but for the parents.
Let's suppose we made male circumcision illegal. Does that mean they would stop happening? No. They would happen in secret and there would be hundreds of thousands of illegal "backstreet circumcisions" - exactly as there used to be with abortion.
But let's take it a little further. Let's suppose that male circumcision was illegal and a mother DID want to abide by the law, but due to her religion / upbringing / culture / home life etc. the idea of her son having a foreskin caused her immense mental anguish. Therefore, one legal solution to her problem would be to abort the baby boy, rather than give birth to him and then be put through the mental anguish of not having the option of removing his foreskin following his birth. Would that be a better outcome?
I think not. This is why I feel we all need to be a bit more tolerant on issues like this. Parents are responsible for so much of what goes on in their children's lives, including choosing whether or not to allow that life to start. I find it difficult to get worked up about children being brought up in loving, caring yet religious environments, when 200,000 children a year aren't even given the chance to be born at all.