What Kind Of Parent Am I Going To Be?

[bednobs]

have reached an impasse with my 21 month old, and having been a reasonably good eater since she was born she now is reluctant to try new things and still wont eat anything that is slimy, or has a non-dry texture (for example she'll eat a whole grape, but if i cut a grape in half, she wont pick it up because one side is slimy), or any veg. She is not yet proficient with a spoon/fork but hates being fed.
I really don't want food to turn into a battle.
Anyway, my husband would like us to be "strong" and if she wont try/eat what i have prepared then take it away and not give her anything else. Sounds good in principle, right?

However, i find her crying about food very very hard to cope with, and my natuaral inclination is to make her something else that she does like (even if it's just peanut butter on toast or whatever) and i don't think i can be that parent. Please help. Either tell me how i can toughen up, or reassure me that i am not creating a monster!

[bednobs]

d'ya know what, since this thread i have been much more relaxed about things and feel so much better.
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