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Anger management
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I struggle to control my anger when having a disagreement. I inow i need help to learn to control my anger but i was wondering what type of help there is for me to have. I have thought about hypnosis but im not sure anyone got any ideas?? thanks
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I have tried Hypnosis to help me give up smoking. I was very sceptical about it all. I really didn't think it would work. I have not touched a cigarette for three months now, since I had that one session.
All I can say is, it's worth a try. If it can stop me smoking after 40 odd years, then I expect it will help you overcome your anger problem.
You may have tried it, but if not, Deep breathes, when you by yourself, practice them, they are an art form, in through the nose, out through the mouth, you'd be suprised how much it helps, and, when in a situation where it looks like you might lose your temper, two or three gives you time to regain control. Whatever metod you use in the end, Good Luck.
Discuss with yourself the various reasons why you think you get so angry when having a disagreement.
You are the result of your upbringing including the environment as you were growing up. You have many deep-seated reasons why you think and believe the way you do and that leads to your reactions.
Think positively. You are entitled to think and believe the way you do BUT others also have the right to think and believe the way they do.
Communication is a two way street. We have to do more than just state our side. We have to listen to the other person's point of view. We then have to come to a common ground of agreement.
You can be as "right as rain" but the other person may have trouble perceiving it that way. If it isn't a "life and death" situation then consider backing off. Give your "opponent" a chance to breathe. He might even give consideration to your points while he is catching his breath.
Don't be so stubborn as to have to have your point of view "win". There is no shame in ending in a draw. You may even gain control by yielding to the other person's point of view.
It is hard to remember that there are many different intelligence (IQ) levels and many different degrees of knowledge and experience. AND, during an argument, it is NOT you that's being attacked but your point of view vs. their point of view. Points of view can be sacrificed upon the altar of the moment in order to attain eventual gain.
When you argue, give yourself time to breathe and think about your opponent's point of view. Call a time-out if you think you are starting to get angry and discuss the issue later when you are both calmer.
Remember, it isn't whether you win or lose but how you play the game. And the game isn't about you or your opponent but about a clash of "ideas". Agree to disagree!
You are the result of your upbringing including the environment as you were growing up. You have many deep-seated reasons why you think and believe the way you do and that leads to your reactions.
Think positively. You are entitled to think and believe the way you do BUT others also have the right to think and believe the way they do.
Communication is a two way street. We have to do more than just state our side. We have to listen to the other person's point of view. We then have to come to a common ground of agreement.
You can be as "right as rain" but the other person may have trouble perceiving it that way. If it isn't a "life and death" situation then consider backing off. Give your "opponent" a chance to breathe. He might even give consideration to your points while he is catching his breath.
Don't be so stubborn as to have to have your point of view "win". There is no shame in ending in a draw. You may even gain control by yielding to the other person's point of view.
It is hard to remember that there are many different intelligence (IQ) levels and many different degrees of knowledge and experience. AND, during an argument, it is NOT you that's being attacked but your point of view vs. their point of view. Points of view can be sacrificed upon the altar of the moment in order to attain eventual gain.
When you argue, give yourself time to breathe and think about your opponent's point of view. Call a time-out if you think you are starting to get angry and discuss the issue later when you are both calmer.
Remember, it isn't whether you win or lose but how you play the game. And the game isn't about you or your opponent but about a clash of "ideas". Agree to disagree!
My work sent me for hynosis as a last 'notice' of my job - it was that or unemployment I went thinking it would be rubbish. Little did I know I had about 6 sessions an hour a go, she put me to sleep/trance and just talked to me she also made me a tape to listen to whilst falling to sleep of the session and it helped me no end. I actually notice myself taking deep breaths and counting in my head before I would usually explode - It has made such a difference, I would certainly advise you to look into it or even try it out. I really can't stress how much it helped me. Hope this helps.
Yes lee lee - go for hypnosis - especially if your hypnotherapist is a trained counsellor - you will see the benefits. Not only will a change in you be good for other people, it will have immense effect upon your life. Your stress levels must be through the roof during these episodes leaving you wide open to all sorts of potential illnesses. I see it that you've got nothing to lose - and as a hypnotherapist myself, I certainly can reccomend this type of therapy for anger management. Good Luck
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