Am I Being Overly Sensitive?

[peason77]

Hi, I recently went away with my partner, my little girl (7) and his 2 kids (10, 13) my little girl behaved in a manner that made me nothing but proud-her only fault was sleeping at night. His 2 kids stayed up until midnight- hence my wee girl wanted to too- but when it came time to sleep, his 2 zonked but I had a battle of tears and had to stay with my girl until she settled ( she does have an existing fear of getting to sleep) on one night I even fell asleep with her. Since we've got back my partner has been really off with me. He just text to say my girl was a beautiful soul it was just her sleeping. I know he's annoyed at me. I'm supposed to go away with him at the end of the month again but I don't want to now as I'm going to be on edge that he'll be mad at me for not getting her to sleep quickly. We're in a caravan so every cry is amplified. I resent it slightly as ive been a single mum all my life- ive worked hard to raise her properly, she really is the perfect girl but ive always struggled with her sleep since she was born. Im close to tears most nights. Im annoyed because he has his kids one night a week and has no idea how hard it is to be a single mum. Am I being overly sensitive or is he being pigheaded? He says he doesn't want to finish with me but neither has he wanted to see me since we've returned. What do I do? Im so sad :(

[FrogNog]

It sounds to me like your daughter is always going to be just baggage to this man.
I'm sure you and her deserve better than that.

[mazza1975]

I was a single mom for ten years then I met my hubby I could not be with him if he was not supportive I.d had selfish partners in the past that lasted a few weeks as if they had any problem with my kids they was out the door, thing is with men they tend to think us single moms am desperate , I dont think your being over sensitive and maybe he is being a little selfish, he needs to realise that if he wants to stay with you you need to address the problem together after all it will benefit you both if u can get ur daughter s sleeping issues resolved,

[P4L3STIN3]

the most imporant thing is never come before your duaghter, no matter what your daughter must always be ur priority, she comes before whom u love, she comes before what u like, she comes before no matter what.. but about the other part im srry i knw nothing :(

[Canary42]

I'm afraid my usual advice applies - dump him. The behaviour you describe is a strong indication of incompatibility and future heartbreak, and you deserve much better.

Try to get outside support with your other problem, because your own anxiety and stress is easily picked up by your daughter which only serves to make it worse.

Good luck.

[Abdullah101]

I suggest you to take your child to sleep with you for a few days. I thinks it's a solution.