horse lovers

[bobis]

hi to all you horsy people, can anyone please tell me why i get so jelouse (have i spelt this properly ) when my wife spends so much time with her ponies, she actually talks to them as if they understand her, we dont have a lot of money but my wifes ponies seem to get the best of everything (dont get me wrong she would give anything to our children) its just that i feel she spends most of the time with her ponies when we could be having some fun, then again i am not a animal lover as such, i am just wondering if i am an oddball or are there any other jelous (god i hope i have spelt this properly) men out there who feel left out when it comes to animals,i really do get so jelous when she cuddles them and tells them she loves them ( i wish she would do that to me ), am i doing things wrong or are there other people out there who feel the same, all the best john.

[Cheekystar]

perhaps you should discuss how you feel with your wife? Ponies / horses are easy to love, and give affection back.

Why not buy a dog, or try to take more of an interest?

[bobis]

hi, thanks for that cheeky star, we have a dog as well which is loved just as much as the ponies, i have also tried to get involved with the ponies in way of taking my wife (who i love so much ) and ponies to various shows, also refurbishing various horseboxes, trailers to accomodate these ponies, i think the real question i am asking is should i feel so bad about the time my wife spends and the love she has for her ponies really matter as i know she loves me no matter how she feels for them, i just want to know if there are other men out there with the same feelings as myself or am i , as i have said previously an oddball, many thanks for your valued oppinion, john

[zanzibar]

I can sympathise with you on this one! Although we don't actually own any horses my wife does work with them. (And not even for a proper wage!) It has taken over her! She is also convinced they can understand her when she talks to them. Can't say much about the other effects they have on her because she will probably read this later!!

[GMH]

At least you get to see you wife wearing tight jodhpurs. Wish my other half would take up horse riding ...

[bobis]

well gmh, the only probs i have with the tight jodpurs is that i have to pay for them,and most of the time my luvly wife wears a pair of old joggers with an old jacket for mucking out (not very romantic), oh they also stink, but not to worry "show days are brill" when she is in the full dress ie jodpurs show jacket tight blouse long leather boots etc, but guess what, she is so tired after the shows she goes straight to sleep, ( THATS AFTER FEEDING AND GROOMING HER HORSE), OH WELL HOPE IM REINCARNATED AS SOME LOVABLE HORSE, HO HO, thanks for your reply, john.

[tazzygirl]

you spelt jealous wrong twice!! lol<<<<<that was ilovetaz(my daughter)

[bobis]

many thanks to you tazzygirl for pointing out my spelling errors, its good to know the the younger people on this site are on the ball, thanks again john.

[saintjohnny]

I don't know if it's of any help, but I too have witnessed the extraordinary effect that horses can have on women. I had a girlfriend who was crazy about them, and while I can't claim that they were as big a problem for me as they seem to be for you, I certainly remember feeling put out when they were put before me. There does seem to be a strong emotional pull from horses with some women - it might be psychological, i.e they give a woman both a feeling of security and power, but also a sense of vulnerability and neediness. then again, I am not a psychologist and I'm sure many would disagree with me. Personally, I would say that you need to talk to her about this.

[horselady]

Speaking as a horse mad female, my other half used to be like you, he just sort of accpted it as time went on. Thing is that horses are not like any other interest, once you have them, you are committed to their care every single day whatever the weather and that can seem to take over your whole life. This does not mean you love your human partner any the less, it's just that he can look after himself, your horses can't. (that's my excuse anyway!)

[ruthann58]

the answer is simple the animals give so much and expect nothing in return unlike husbands

[bobis]

hi, many thanks to you all for the answers to my question,the conclusion i have come to is that it is myself and my ego which i need to look at, why should i deny my wife the joy and companionship she has with her ponies, i will make a determined effort to understand both her and the ponies, so thanks again to you all, john.

[lankeela]

Get yourself a horse, then you'll know. Its not confined to the fairer sex to love them you know!