How do you know when someone's coming on to you?

[GraceAnais]

just wonderng whether this sounds like a come on to any lads out there? on friday night i went to a party. there was a guy there who i've known for a while.. but we're not friends..just know each other through friends. we all had a bit to drink and i was flirting a bit... taking the p**s and being a bit cheeky to him. later on that night he collared me in the hall and said, 'i know your type...you're the kind of girl that could get a guy into a lot of trouble.' i asked him what he meant but he just shook his head, walked off and smiled.

neither of us are with anyone....but for reasons too long too long to go into, it would upset people (namely my mates) if anything ever did happen between us. at the time i didn't really think anythin of it... but now i'm wondering if it was a come on. can't discuss it with any of my friends... so just wondered what other guys thought.... thank

p.s he is not the first guy to say this sorta thing to me... what am i? some kinda devil woman?

[Scarlett]

Your way of flirting is obviously to be a bit cheeky and rude, and pull their leg. Some men find this confusing, 'cos you are not doing the normal seductive girly flirting thing! So he sees you as a naughty girl rather than a sweet innocent girly girl. He sees you as someone who is not into anything deep, but wants playground chasing. If you genuinely like him, arrange another meeting and maybe this time be a bit more "coy", like he intrigues you. Men seem to be far more attracted to the girl next door than a vixen with a thousand witticisms- unfortunately!