Sandy please encourage her to see an orthopaedic surgeon re hip replacement. My mum had both hers done (Musgrave, Belfast) a year apart, and went from a housebound cripple to a vibrant, outgoing, unstoppable new woman. She is literally a different person. The pain relief she was taking before the ops was doing her more harm than good too. I fully appreciate the stress you feel as I felt exactly the same, mum took a lot of persuading and had every excuse - The waiting list is too long, I'll be dead before I'm seen, I'm too old (66!) In the end my brother and I paid for her 1st consultation privately (£150), money well spent.