sex after giving birth

[bednobs]

hi, i gave birth last week (you may have read my post about it in "pregnancy")
I am not seeing any midwives/health visitors owing to the circumstances of the birth. I was given 1 weeks worth of antibiotics owing to the circumstances too. I have stopped bleeding and would very much like to be close to my husband. How long do i have to wait before we can do it again? sorry for too much info! :)

[4getmenot]

ha ha yes best to check he is ready too, lol. I'm not saying at all this is why you are doing it, as you said you want to be close but to him he may think you just want another baby as soon as you can. If you talk and cuddle you will know if he's ready too xx

[society]

I am sorry to hear that Bednobs, and I sincerely feel badly for you. x
I've been off this site for a while so wasn't aware of your situation.

Thanks 4Get for the info.

[karenmac60]

And Bednobs, just because either of you might not be ready for sex, doesn't mean you can't be close. Sometimes just touching (and I don't mean in the obvious places) is in itself far more intimate. Just lying together in the dark stroking one another's backs, arms, faces etc, can feel much closer than sex. It's good that you want this though, and that you aren't letting what has happened come between you - far better to grieve together than to retreat from each other, it can only help your relationship x

[bednobs]

part of the reason i don't want to consult anyone "medical" is that i don't want them to think i am trying to get pregnant - it implies she is replaceable. And she isn't.

[4getmenot]

Exactly and thats what you need to tell you man too. x

[petal54]

sorry to hear your sad news,can't fully understand how you feel,your 'other half'must also be suffering & he prob not know what to do/say to help you.allbest wishes

[ethandron]

bednobs, you might find this interesting:
http://ehealthforum.c...r-sex-t185592-a1.html

[bednobs]

thanks for all your answers, still none the wiser, but it was kind of you all to reply

[tigwig]

Hi bednobs, in answer to your question I don't think there is a particular time limit to wait its just whatever you feel comfortable with.
I am so sorry about your loss and hope the time you had with her was special for you. I send you my best wishes for the future and I know you will get through this very tough time together. Take care of yourself.