no sexual relationship

[rosamundjohn]

I think that my long term relationship is a mess as he is not interested and never has been, Answers from males please?

[China Doll]

If he never has been then it's not necessarily his problem but if you want more then he will either have to compromise somewhere or you will have to decide if a relationship with this fella but without sex is what you want for your future.

[carrust]

DO SOMETHING TO STOKE HIS BOILER THEN!!!!!

[ummmm]

Sex isn't always connected to love Murray...

[TTG]

Learn the skills of Sasha Grey and Silvia Saint and he will pay you all the attention you will ever need.

[tenrec]

rosamund, does your partner love you? Mine does, even without the sex. So we are a good pair. I just wanted you to know that a marriage/partnership can survive if you both want it to.

[jackthehat]

Yoo-Hoo...........B00!!! ;o)

[Craftypig]

Have you tried to turn him on? You probably have, but we need to start somewhere. How long is long term?

[rosamundjohn]

POSTDOG. 65 but been like this since i met him 23 years ago.

[jno]

I hear women sometimes have relationships with other women, B00, and was assuming Halifaxmum was one such. Could be wrong, of course.

[cazzz1975]

how did you get together then ?(assuming he was like this when you met)

[murraymints]

ummm, I agree..but he is obviously making her unhappy...

[ummmm]

B00 is a bit slow on the uptake...

Jeez Rosa...obviously it has worked then!

[rosamundjohn]

not that he doesn't love me murraymints. i think he does or would not stay around?

[China Doll]

Bless... Boobies is so cute sometimes... <<< she'll kill me for that tomorrow :c)

If he has been like it for 23 years then why now is it a problem? And if he has always been like it then I would say it's for you to raise the conversation with him, put your views forwards and then make a decision from there. But if he has been like this for 23 years then perhaps he may be happy to continue this way, so ultimately if you are not happy too then you will have to make a hard decision.

[rosamundjohn]

yeas cazzzz-was interested in the beginning but nothing ever happened---and 20+ YEARS LATER..........

[murraymints]

But he is not making you happy...we can all have a relationship without sex and be happy...but you seem to be miserable

[cazzz1975]

after all this time, I think its time you asked him

[Prudie]

Well being blunt it seems he either has a very very low sex drive or is impotent. Whichever it seems that this has now started to bother you rather than being a problem with him as you've accepted up until now?

[237SJ]

Sorry but I think he`s gay.