wondering if only !!!!

[terrij]

Has anybody out there got a soft spot for someone they once went out with...most people i know always remember that special someone...especially if they are a bit upset...had an argument with present partner or even had a few to drink ha ha......you look back and wonder what it would have been like if only !!!!!!!.....in fact some times i think it lasts a life time just always wondering !!!! would love to hear your views....

[Cockney_si]

We could spend our whole lives wondering if only....I recently had a friend confess (whilst drunk) to me about how their life was going nowhere and how it would have been better if they had treated me better in the past and then they would have something to show for it.

Their loss, my pain.  I'm a better man for it in the long run.

[ems27]

once i'm past the 6month to a year stage after breaking up with them i seem to lose all memories of why the relationship ended can only think of them fondly. Its annoying as most of them weren't very nice to me but my memory becomes selective and i can only seem to remember the fun times. i guess the saying time is a great healer is true.

[MargeB]

I have been clearing out my ol stables off stuff, to clear some room. Ouch!

Postcards...letters...mugs...photos...undeveloped film OMG!!!!!!!!!!!! What do you do with undeveloped film??? (Lipstick mark's still on your coffee cup)

I also frequent friendsreunited.com. Ouch (2). Old school flames...Now MARRIED WITH KIDS! How could a website hurt so much? Friendsreunited now the biggest cause of marriage breakups in uk?

[ALLO]

i always think that i married the wrong brother! as horrible as that sounds. i remember one time before we were married and we were fighting. he wanted to go get drunk with some girls. i didn't like them very much, well i asked his brother to take me home andd i swear he was gonna kiss me. you know when you both stair at one another and you just know. well i got spooked and ran! i always wonder what would have happened if i would have stayed that night with him. now he lives with us and he's a better dad to my kids than his brother. i think we do more familly things with him, than my hubby. he always off getting drunk. and his brother buy us dinner, plays with the kids, helps me tuck them in bed. so you can see why i think i married the wrong brother!

[Hermia]

My mum returned from the supermarket looking rather shocked recently 'cause she bumped into an old flame. My parents had a brilliant marriage, but she had wondered what the other guy was doing now. She bumped into him and found out that he was obese, bald, smelly and very, very boring indeed!

[MargeB]

ALLO, I don't think it's appropriate to marry either of your brothers.

[ALLO]

akay marge! thier not my brothers! it's my husband and his brother!  that would be incest and that's discusting. mabey i should have been more thurogh in my wording!

[Octavius]

Funny, I had this thought the other day, for no particular reason.  I am engaged to a wonderful loving girl and wouldn't change that.  I was with my previous partner for 11 years we got engaged but never got around to marrying.  I often wonder where I would be now had we, but equally I am glad that things turned out the way they did - strange as it sounds, I would have married the wrong woman!!  She left me to pursue a career up north and although it hurt like hell at the time, it was right for both of us.  Our good times had been and gone.

I haven't seen or heard from her since, but if I did see her now, I would be confident in the knowledge that we would be curteous to each other, but that is all.  I have a new life now and it doesn't involve her.    

[CiderMonkey]

I'm deeply in love with the person I am with now, but before I met him there was a guy i really liked. We smooched and spent the odd weekend here and there together - we often went to the same gigs and had lots of freinds in common. We never really got together properly because he lived in a different town. We just had loads of fun when we did see each other. I wanted to keep it light because i knew we were both too busy to make it work. It all ended when we met different people and i fell in love. He then moved to live in the town i am now living in and we see each other out and about. I wouldn't want to change things at all as the guy I am with now is definitely the one for me. But yes, i do have a soft spot for this other guy and i wonder if we'd be together if I hadn't met anyone before he moved to my town. I feel a bit bad about this. My current guy knew stuff happened between me and this other guy but he doesn't know i've wondered 'what if'. I would never tell him because it would hurt him, even though i think most people have feeling like this, no matter how much they love thier current partner. There's probably someone from his past he wonders about too!

[toecrusher]

hope you dont mind if i take this in another direction, not about old flames, i know none of them would have worked out. do you ever wonder if you made the right decision about career moves, house moves, just any other major decisions which have affected your life in one way or another. i know now at 49 that different decisions could have altered the way my life has turned out. not that i am unhappy, just that things could have been different

[tomd]

I'm currently sound engineering for a play completely about this.. it's about some old friends etc that meet up at a school reunion. I was going to post the Narrator's opening speech here (he has loads of them that are basically exactly like your question) but's it's far too long.

[terrij]

thankyou so much for all your open and honest answers....Allo i  understand what you mean, it is so strange how things in life work out, but most of the time we just except that this is it we have chose this path to take and there is no other option.........But is there another way ??? ha ha i guess i could go on wondering for ever....thanks everyone