I feel so lonely

[Hedkandi]

Hi there,
I Feel so lonely. All my friends are in nice relationships or are married. I feel so left out. I wish I could have a nice boyfriend but it never seems to happen for me. I don't act desperate or anything either, I'm happy and friendly to everyone, but this is starting to get me down. I've had some really horrible relationships in the past (I'm sure i'm not the only one), and just wish I could find a nice guy. I feel like i'm doomed to be single all my life. Any advice/help appreciated.
Many thanks. xxx

[admarlow]

well you obviously have a good taste in music....thats a start!

[admarlow]

I think the best thing to do is to decide for the next few months never to turn down an invitation, even if you don't really feel like going along and can't see how you could possiably meet anyone there, you never know you may be surprised!

[clairelb]

Hi

Well andy hughes as ever has come up with good advice.  These kind of things do tend to come up when and where you least expect it, and with someone you least expect.  And admarlow has also come up with a good suggestion.  Don't turn down an invitation.  If someone asks you out on a date, unless you really find them repulsive, go.  You just never know..and remember a date is a date, there are not committments made.  If it doesn't work out, then hopefully you may have made a friend, and a new circle of friends brings new opportunities and new social occasions.

I know you're probably sitting there tearing your hair out at the situation and it all seems like a desperate situation now, but life really does turn up surprises when you least expect it.  Maybe if you stop looking, someone will come and find you.

Good luck.

[lindapinda]

Hi there Hedkandi,used to feel exactly the same as you are feeling,and as Andy Hughes said,just when I had decided to not bother anymore and remain single,I met my husband to be,at work! When it's the right time,the right person will turn up!

[pixi]

hi hedkandi

some really good answers you've got there.  I too have had some crap relationships, two long term ones with vicious women beaters, then another long term one with a placid bloke who was a chronic alcoholic.  I then went off men big style for about a year,and like you was convinced i'd never meet anyone nice. I then met my husband at a friends house.  We've been together over 7 years now and never even had an argument.  So its true that when you dont expect it it'll happen.  Lots of good luck and don't forget to let us all know when you meet the man of your dreams

[indian]

Just thought I'd mention, better to be single than in another bad relationship?!

Think of it this way, the world is your oyster, you can have any man you want, if he's lucky!

[smee.tracey]

I'm a single mum who hasn't had a relationship for 5 years. I don't care though. In the past I've been with some control freaks and out and out nasty gits. I'm not missing out on anything. I enjoy life. I have a fulfilling job, a great son (who has never seen his father - he left while I was pregnant), hobbies and interests and, if I'm totally honest, don't have time for a man. I suppose if one fell from the sky into the garden I might give him a look but I'm not pining. All this from a woman who a few years ago would have done anything to be "his girlfriend".
Enjoy being yourself. If you meet someone, fantastic. If you don't - entertain yourself. Good luck