"my Gay Dad"...

[MadMen]

Just having a nose on FB and someone I went to school with has posted pictures of her Dad's recent wedding day, where she was a bridesmaid.
I was flicking through them and thinking "there's lots of pictures of him and the best man". But.... it turns out that was the person he was MARRYING!!

I just don't get it.

[ChuckFickens]

I've changed just for my little lover, JL :) xx

[Sharingan]

I think you might be right chuckfickens ( awesome name). Here's a song for joeluke anyway ( just in case ihe needs some encouragement).

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3j4t185wl-0

[sara3]

where *is* joeluke when you want him?

:o)

[ottosump]

I have relatives who are gay, I love them dearly, I have friends who are gay, I trust them with everything, I have a son who if at some point in his life told me he was gay, I would embrace him. There are no boundaries where love is concerned, love is so simple but we as a society make it so complicated. Who are we to judge who loves who, justification, morals, standards, who cares, it is what it is..

[anneasquith]

chuck,,,,,,,,,,,,,thats disgusting !!!! :0

[Eve]

And labels are just labels, just a word, you fall for who you fall for, you like who you like.

[jim360]

I have no idea how I'd react if either of my parents came out as gay. Still, it's not going to happen so I hardly have to worry.

[sherrardk]

I'd like to think I would be cool with my kids if one of them was gay, they'd still be my beautiful child, although I think I would worry that other people would give them a hard time.

[vodkancoke]

Lol Chuck! That is one disturbing avatar! There should be a warning with that ;) x

[magsmay]

chuckfickens -your avatar looks like someone with a butternut squash tied around their waist .

[ChuckFickens]

Worryingly... I have worse I could use, but as I don't want to get my Avatar banned (yet again!) I better change it...

[sara3]

okay okay... change it back!!!

[vodkancoke]

Dear God, that one's worse! :/

[vodkancoke]

At least the "butternut squash" wasn't off-centre ;)

[silliemillie]

MadMen - Just because you are shocked at a man who has had a wife & children 'coming out' DOESNOT make you homophobic!

Most people would be shocked but are all too busy being PC & 'cool with it' they sometimes say what they think is expected, not what they really think.

[sara3]

errr... I think most of us say what we really think!

in my world, people should be happy. I don't care what they get up to in the bedroom. and that would include friends and family.

[ChuckFickens]

The thing is, Millie... he didn't say he was shocked, I'd be shocked if my Dad came out as gay, that's a natural reaction.

MM said he didn't get it.

If my Dad came out as gay, yes I'd be shocked (especially as he's knocking on 80)... but I'd "get it" if that's what he really wanted.

[jim360]

I think the problem I would have, if any, wouldn't so much be the fact that my dad was gay, but more the fact that he would have then spent well over 30 years lying to my mum, and then lying to me for my entire life. While the lie may well have been forced on him by social pressures, it would be difficult I think to get over that anger -- whether or not I should be angry, I'm sure I would be at least at first.

[silliemillie]

Ok, maybe she didnt use the words shocked but someone on the previous page said 'maybe you are homophobic' which I think is wrong.

[askyourgran]

I don't think it's a matter of lying to anyone. That man may have felt very sad or felt ashamed about himself for feeling that way for all those years. He probably tried to do what was expected of him by marrying and having a family. Only now that his family is old enough he has probably found someone who he cares for enough to 'come out' about it.