Lonneliness

[fraser]

Heard about the over sixties about loneliness it also hit people younger even those working ,yes iam talking from my own experiences I don't want answers or sympathy just awareness it happens at at ages!!

[Patsy33]

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[Canary42]

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Jackdaw: I live in sheltered accommodation so there are always others around but as most of them are mad, nosy, interfering old biddies

rowan witch:I live in sheltered too, most of the old ladies are lovely the men are mostly strange or have drink problems
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I'm starting to think about moving into sheltered accommodation, but you two put me off a bit with those remarks ;-)

[hereIam]

fraser, whilst I appreciate that loneliness can happen at almost any age, it is far worse when you are older, not only in your sixties, but well beyond that. Often all your nearest and dearest are dead and you may have no family left at all, your health may be failing as health does the older you get and you can feel that you are a burden and nobody cares because you are 'old and ugly'. That is a fact, that happens. You have youth and probably health on your side when you are younger, not so when you are old and often forgotten. Unfair, I feel, to denigrate people wanting to help the over sixties.

[jourdain2]

As someone said - you can be lonely and isolated when in a relationship. Happened to me and that is really hard. Not read all the replies, but I would say that if you are at all mobile it is important to actually go outside and speak to people.
All my dad's friends died - he was left as the oldest and only survivor and that was tough. He lived through mum and me and when she died he was really struggling.

My earlier advice stands, get out, find something to be involved in. Church, pub quiz team, local litter-picking.... anything. I know that I will feel isolated when (as is most likely due to the age difference betweenMr. J2 and I) I am left on my own -but Ihave a lot of activities and people to be my fence and support.

[rowanwitch]

Canary, don't let us put you off, I have a lovely two bedroom flat, with great views, the block is pretty quiet and very well maintained. Moving here was the second best thing I ever did. The best thing was Dave,

[ummmm]

Sweet Rowan. I really hope you're OK

[-Talbot-]

I wish I were lonely right at this moment in time.

Instead of watching this 'Our Shirley Valentine Summer' thing in the company of my 15 year old son :0/

[237SJ]

"Don't be so flippant

[rowanwitch]

I'm ok, but lonely myself right now,for obvious reasons. It passes, just feel it in the evenings

[-Talbot-]

sj, I will be as flippant as I like.

[Scarlett]

I don't think that the internet /email/texts have done anything to help loneliness. I was at the Doctors the other day, sitting under the aircon as it was so hot, even though my appointment was over; an old lady came up and started to chat to me. We had loads in common and she ended up giving me advice on housing associations and how to grow beans without a garden! She was lovely, and I got the feeling she was on her own too. That chat brightened my day SO much. I never get the same feeling with an email/text or Facebook message. In fact I find the opposite- they can be really depressing! Close down your computers people, and go out and make real life contact!!

[rowanwitch]

Well done Jordyboy it takes work to keep a good relationship that long