Sorry About This

[jennyjoan]

but when you are very low in every kind of way - can anybody help you to try and get up from that lowness.

Samaritans dont do it for me, I, just want to have the ability to do it by myself and not have so MUCH SENSITIVITY TO THE WORLD.

I would love to densensitive myself and would love to be able to scream, holler, bawl and say bad words, but it is not in my nature to use so many expletives but would love to.

[jennyjoan]

I mean if you are not worthy of being in he world ie mother, father, sibling, et al - what's the point of being on earth.

many years ago I would have thought that you have reproduced little ones - then your own lives live on but right now not for me.

[Mamyalynne]

Everybody has worth and something to offer JJ, not just those with close family or children.

You have friends who value you I'm sure.

As for becoming less sensitive to the woes of the World, I don't think I'd want to harden up myself but sometimes it can be overwhelming.

Try to distract yourself by doing something that makes you smile.

[Buenchico]

Start here:
https://hubofhope.co.uk

Enter your postcode (or simply 'Belfast'). On the next page, select an option that looks like it might be right for you OR (possibly better, if you're not really sure what you're looking for) use the 'skip this step' option at the top of the page.

Then click 'Refine my results' and choose 'Peer support group' (or 'Online or telephone support' or whatever else you think might be best in your case). From there, click on the links to see what services each organisation offers.

[Note: Many of the organisations will have 'Closed' next to them. That only means that their services aren't available right now, NOT that the organisation has actually closed down!]

[naomi24]

I too would love to desensitise myself from the world, JJ, but enough about me. Doesn't being a good and caring friend count? I think you provide superb support for those around you. I read your posts and you can certainly claim a gold star for that. Take heart. x

[jennyjoan]

I tried to join a class this morning and very nice lady was only doing her job. Everything I picked (class) IT CLASS knocked back because of Covid. I decided on riding on cycle - not to next March. Jesus Covid has hit us all.

So have decided we have to just learn to lived with what what we have got. Classrooms Have been bubbled for kiddies, no space for any other classes. and so I can go on.

this is first year I TRIED to join and to get all the knockbacks - will knock me back but hey ho - worse scenarious than me out there.

[elliemay1]

jenny, you come across as a lovely witty person so don't undervalue yourself. Maybe it will help to get it off your chest here. Try to have something to look forward to every day, even something simple like reading or doing a crossword or listening to a favourite radio programme. Are you able to get out for a walk?

[naomi24]

JJ, if you're getting knocked back in certain areas because of Covid, so is everyone else. It's not just you.

[jennyjoan]

thank you Naomi for that beautiful GOLD STAR - but sorry it hasn't worked. The Covid (for some reason has put people loopy loo) so I can't help.

I just need to help myself to densensitive big time. Absolutely incredible how friends have fallen apart over this. Around me friends are still terrified of getting the Covid - not visiting and not allowing visiting either. they've gone mad here in NI

[Mamyalynne]

It's been an awful time for maintaining social contact that's for sure Jenny.

I think we all must just do what we can - however if you are truly feeling so low that you don;t wish to go on then please see your GP.

[calmck]

Jenny It's the same for some people everywhere. My bil won't let his children or grandchildren in the house. All adults are vaccinated. He is still cleaning his shopping, changing his clothes when he comes back from doctor etc. Stays in one room if anyone has to come to the house. Some people are just that way.
Check out Age NI. Looks as though they are still active and doing things. Do you have a garden, if so go out there and have a good scream! If you can't say the words shout them by writing them in capitals. Maybe a low dose anti depressant would help. Have a chat with your doctor. Tell him you need face to face consult.
Write down what is worrying you in one column, what you would like to do in the next, what it would achieve in the third. It might help. However there is always someone on here if you are in distress. Most people will hopefully, chat with you to help in a crisis so you know you are not alone. Also Maxie is there for you with unconditional love, he needs you as much as you need him

[anneasquith]

Jj. You have been a great support for your sister since her son died have you not ?

[Karamia]

I can understand from my own situation how you may be feeling as there are so many ups and downs. Are you able to volunteer at a local primary school to listen to children read? Or can you volunteer at a local charity shop/book shop/library? Why not try putting out flyers to see if anyone is interested in a chat group to be held at local community centre once a week? I know things can seem dark at times but just something small can lift the spirits. Hope you find some ideas you might be able to try.

[barry1010]

It is strange times and things are bleak and lonely for so many people - and blerdy frightening for some.
Things will get better.
In the meantime avoid the news if that upsets you; watch tv that you enjoy and uplifts you; go for walks every day; minimise contact with negative people if you can do so without causing them harm; make a list of everything you hope to do when things are 'normal'.

Hope things are feeling better for you soon, JJ.

[Bobbisox1]

JJ, I find you one of the kindest,sweetest people on this site and if it were possible I’d have you as a friend in a heartbeat, don’t go changing as the song goes,stay as sweet as you are , there you have it, two songs for the price of one lovely lady xxx

[davebro]

//would love to be able to scream, holler, bawl and say bad words,//

Dunno where you live but maybe a session in a rage room would help.

https://www.verywellmind.com/research-behind-anger-rooms-4136169

[burlyshirley]

This is the problem jj for those of us who live alone, it has been a very hard time (and I have always been happy living alone), but all the damn restrictions we have had to endure have made it hard and just when you think things are starting to get back to normal, we are warned that there will probably be another lockdown, mandatory mask wearing AGAIN and passports to various venues. And I think 'oh dear God, not again'. I don't really know what the answer is, except that like me you have a much loved dog and she has definitely kept me going, I have to carry on for her as she is totally oblivious to all this madness. I have a brother who I think the world of and he has also been a big help to me, I know you have people around you who you care about too, you just have to look to them more. Keep going jj, you're not alone .....

[burlyshirley]

By the way jj, I had a screaming, bawling session once and it wasn't worth it, I kicked out and hit my toe on something hard that I didn't see and almost tore a whole nail of - very painful !

[Arksided]

Keep going jj, you're not alone

Yeah keep going my dear plenty of other mad bats about. Xx

[AuntPG]

JJ When you are in that place no-one can get you out of it, you can only help yourself. There are coping strategies, one of the main ones is releasing emotions. If you don't want a screaming session, which may result in someone calling the police, try writing down your rants, use all the swear words you want cos no one is going to see them. Put it in an envelope and leave it. Next write down all your blessings (even if it's just little maxie ) -write about him and what he has done in your life. Put that in an envelope and leave it. Next day read both letters to yourself.
Also Google " Reactive depression"

[elliemay1]

jenny, can you please let us know how you are today as we genuinely do care about you