Why Do I Hurt The Peoplle Thati Love

[nailedit]

Its a repeating patern

Was arrestest tuesday night for assaualting two of my neighbours who have each been friedsbfor over 20 0 yrs.

obiodsly i was drunk but got no memory. j.

lAst people on on earth id want to hurt,loce them both to bits.

 

beenn friends for years.  But now want tt just to off myself. Cant du e another jail senence adain.

wAS In cells for almost a day, had to be tackin hospita for th duratation becauase i close to fitting,

FF     sakes  

I cant do this anymore.

Due for detox in 2 weeks time, now seems a bti  poinless if im om going jail agian . anyway!

 

 

 

 

[ladybirder]

Agree with JTH that nicebloke1 is a misnomer.  It would suit nailedit though.

[jourdain2]

Are you up to reading AB again, nailedit?  Please don't think for a moment that you are worthless, even though this episode is pretty bad... it's not the sober you. You got off alcohol once, you can do it again.  

Your neighbours will be understandably very upset, angry and wary, but they used to be friends and I strongly suspect that they understand that it was not the 'you' they know and like who attacked them.   There is a likeable you - you, they and we know it.

Try hard to get to the next detox session without any further trouble. Yes, your body needs alcohol - could you try drinking drinks with lower alcohol content to prepare it and get you there safely?

 I don't know the law - whatever you did needs to be paid for - but then start with a clean sheet. You are punishing yourself mentally and that is important to help you change your life.

Still rooting for you - like a lot of others. 

 

[douglas9401]

I'll be blunt too, assaulting ones neighbours isn't clever.  It's thoughtless and frankly just plain idiotic.  

A metaphorical arm round the shoulder might make the giver feel better but it's not helping. Anyone.

[nicebloke1]

Ladybirder 17.16. The post is about nailedit ok. Not me.

[naomi24]

Great logic - when you're sober, lucid and in a peaceful state of mind, Douglas.  When you're not, the metaphorical arm around the shoulder it vital.  Nothing more soul destroying than than feeling alone and helpless in this world.  Save your lemons for another time.

[douglas9401]

An expert writes...

Is there any subject that falls outside your purview, naomi?

Any at all?

[naomi24]

One or two.

[davebro3]

//I've sat hours through the night with Nailedit when he's been at his lowest.  If you can't say anything positive at least he kind and say nothing.  He's not a well man.//

He should be with a psychiatrist not posting on a public forum with unqualified contributors.

[Barmaid]

Anyone can listen, davebro, which often makes the difference short term.  Yes, he does need help from mental health professionals.  Unfortunately, mental health services are under huge pressure - the funding does not always go to them on the basis that there is still the view "in my day we just got on with it".

NailedIt is a long term poster of this site and when not in drink posts sensibly and with knowledge on many topics.  He should not be prevented from doing so in his hour of need and will certainly not be the first ABer to reach out like this.

You do not have to be qualified to listen and not judge.

[Ringlet]

I simply cannot believe some of the insensitive responses to this post.  A man tells us that he "wants to just off himself"  and all that some people can say is, that he is attention seeking.  

Don't you recognise suicide ideation when  you see it?  Or do you just admit to it when the person is actually dead?  If you cannot say anything helpful, empathetic, supportive, or kind, say nothing.  

And to Nailedit, I truly hope that you can find the help you need, and that the help you find will be permanent. 

I have seen three good friends in my lifetime whose lives were destroyed by their addiction to alcohol.  One of those friends has now, in his late sixties, finally found a way to feel good about himself, and to lead a useful life.  My hopes and wishes for you are, that you can do the same.  

[curlyfries81]

16:27 - what a silly, meaningless response. Clearly you could not think of a better one.

[jackthehat]

curlyfries81 - If you mean I clearly didn't want to spend any more time on your arrant nonsense, you'd be correct.

nailedit deserves better than your input.

[Canary42]

Funny how threads like this attract the sanctimonious as well as genuinely concerned folk.

 

[237SJ]

^ I don't know why people get their knickers in a twist about Nailit's threads.  They get far more bothered than he does as he seems quite stoical when he finally gets back to replying.

[nicebloke1]

20.08 Its also funny how it attracts the ones that have no other motive other than attempting to shine above anyone else. No one will shine if they express / give there honest opinion.

[curlyfries81]

jackthehat ... what a nasty tone you have. Just because someone has an opinion that differs from yours doesn't give you the right to dismiss it as arrant nonsense. Get over yourself. 

I hope this poster conquers his demons once and for all but I have no sympathy or excuses to offer up for his unpardonable behaviour and no time for enablers such as yourself.

If he'd assaulted one of your loved ones I have no doubt you'd be screeching from the rooftops. 

 

[jackthehat]

curlyfries81 - You say nasty tone, I say observational comment.

You say enabler, I say empathetic reader.

And I have never screeched in my life! How very dare you...

[pastafreak]

It's interesting when relative new comers, or those who've never interacted with the OP, have such strong opinions. And then call those who are far more familiar with the OP...sometimes even away from AB...enablers.

No-one on here is offering nailedit a drink. That's what a enabler would be doing. Instead he's being offered empathy and a place to express himself, along with advice. Kicking him up the backside will serve no useful purpose. 

[pastafreak]

JTH is possibly one the most reasonable and clear headed members of AB. I'd be shocked if she ever came close to screeching. 

[ladybirder]

For those that don't know nailedit he is a nice kind helpful man who when he is well volunteers to help charities.  He is also a very bright and knowledgable guy and I hope we see the best of him again soon.  

Please be kind.