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This is just a little question to all the men out there who i'm hoping could shed some light on a few things. Heres goes, I met a guy in a bar a month ago, we text each other constantly, we went out together on 3 dates, which he was always suggesting, he's been texting saying when are we going out again etc. I'd see him and he'd be all over me, and he seemed very interested. Well we went out yesterday afternoon, (he'd text me the night before saying he couldn't wait to see me), we had a nice time, he dropped me home and said he didn't want to leave me. 4 hours later I get a text from him telling me he doesn't want anything serious and he doesn't want to keep leading me on, cause he aint ready for anything, and just wanted to be straight with me and that's it, it's over. HELLO, what was all that about?!!
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For more on marking an answer as the "Best Answer", please visit our FAQ.Ok, we went out to lunch, i'd taken the afternoon off work for it. We got some food I was thinking we'd be out for a while, he says he has to go out, I don't enquire as to where he's going. In the car we're saying goodbye, I say jokingly guess i'll see you when I see you, and he says don't be like that, and then I say, well it just would've been nice to see you for a bit longer, we then kiss, he says oh I don't wanna leave you now, he didn't wanna let me go, I say, well ya gotta aint ya, he says, ok babe phone me later tonight and we'll do something at the weekend.
Sorry all for the long story!
Most likely he has an aversion to any kind of face-to-face confrontation, so wanted to put off breaking up till he could text. As for the hugging in the car, he probably sensed that you were unhappy he had to leave, so wanted to deflect any bad feeling.
Sorry. If it's any comfort you're clearly better off without him.
It is a possibility that he has been hurt before and when you said the thing about goodbyes, it re-ignighted previous relationships that went sour. Maybe he thought he should end it before he gets hurt again?
As a man, I can safely say that the majority of us find it hard to really express our emotions, bottling them up until things go pear shaped. Maybe this is a case of that.
If you really like him and you thought he liked you (which it sounds like he did), talk to him. Its not always easy for men to do the follow up....believe me. Maybe he will feel more confident with you witht the fact that you are willing to talk to him about his feelings.
Now...this is only my 2 cents okay? Oh, and if you are like my wife, try not ot be over-analytical......always a strain for the man!!! :-)
I've done this before myself, and i'm not a bad man.
Reckon he's possibly been hurt before, he maybe really liked you, but once he'd had a bit of time on his own(no disrespect bumble) he maybe realised he could fall for you pretty hard and was protecting himself by backing clean away. That's just from my experience, it may be something completely different with him!! BLOODY MEN!!!!!