Where are all the men ?

[Demongirlie]

I've just been chatting with my friend and both of us have been single for some time. And we were wondering where all the men ? All we've noticed lately are boys in men's clothing. Surely there amust be men out there who are intelligent, attractive, who have good sense of humour. Are we just being picky ? Has anyone else been experiencing this ??

[Zorr0]

Zara you just need to stop going for the wrong type.

You birds all like the charmer, who's charming to all women.

Then you complain that they're a b*stard, when you find out they're like that to all women!

[zara 4]

Oh no Zorr0,I don't do charmers,big turn off,rough'n'ready thats the sort,what you see is what you get,but as men get older they get so insecure,its just a man thing and THATS why there are so many B*stards out there! Insecure men growing old but not gracefully!

[Zorr0]

Ruff & ready - you could be describing me.

So why are half the women on this thread so aggressive from what Ive seen.

I started the replies and then things went downhill after that.

[Coobeastie]

happy face are you generally anti-male or is it just jimboy who's got your back up....

[Coobeastie]

I really must read to the end of the posts before posting.....

[jimboy2]

god look at all these people coming to my defense??

im well sitting here puffing out my shoulders, all this adulation is giving me a big head!!

[Demongirlie]

To be fair Jimboy2, there's been equal defense for each of you. And Happy_face was only defending the seriousness of my question in reaction to what could be perceived as your immaturity. My question being 'Where are all the men' and why are there soooo many single people out there. I have loads of girlfriends who are intelligent, very attractive, great sense of humour and I cant understand why we're all single. We're not all Pamela Anderson but I would rate us all at least an 8/10

[Se7en]

Well Demongirl, if theyre anywhere near the North East, you can fix them up with me. Im only a 7 of course!

[Demongirlie]

Well Se7en, unfortunately as tempting as you sound, we're all West London girls. Geography another stumbling block, has anyone found a bloke overseas ?

[jimboy2]

yes demongirlie happy faced was very serious and if all your friends are all intelligent and have a sense of humour but make mockery of the first bloke who uses HIS sense of humour (regardless of age!) in a situation like this then singledom beckons for the forseeable future. there is a lesson here folks while most people will rate sense of humour and personality as the top 2 things they look for in a relationship there is a hidden trait that is not often mentioned. Tolerance. if you are not a tolerant person and turn your nose up at the first sign of something you dont like in the opposite sex, again slap a big sign on your head that says "single i shall stay" do you see my point???

[Se7en]

That HappyFace - I cud have happily slapped her face !

[Demongirlie]

I see your point jimboy2, but as the saying goes first impressions are lasting ones. Now i cant speak for the other AB ladies, but if some bloke comes up to me trying to chat me up with some ridiculous line, about their supposed anatomy, then I'm sorry but that just doesnt interest me. How are we supposed to react ???

And in all fairness se7en, not everybody has the same sense of humour.

[jimboy2]

my good god if you think i would use that as a line.......

plus what are you talking about? you were playing along AND enjoying it? .......

[Demongirlie]

well all I can say is you obviously mistook sarcasm for enjoyment.

not surprisingly really when blokes revert to thinking that us girls are impressed by your advertising the "supposed" size of your manhood.

dont get me wrong jimboy2 you sound like a nice bloke, but I think depending on your age and sex we're all looking for something different. I'm sure at the age of 23 you're not interested in long term commitment or the possibility of babies, and so you shouldnt be, neither was I at that age.

[Se7en]

Demongirl, in all seriousness I do worry myself that Ive suddenly got old & on the shelf, after spendin about 2 years concentrating completely on sorting my finances out, I emerged the wrong side of 30 a couplre of years ago, most of my mates settled down very quickly in that time (obviously with 1st bird that came alomg). I cant find many birds that I fancy coz all the ones my age are married, or divorced with 2 kids.

In the last 2 years or so Ive met dozens of women like that and just thought nah thats not for me. I want to meet a woman in late 20s, early 30s with no kids who is intelligent and feels like me that its time to settle down. Not neccesarily start a family yet, maybe in 5 or 6 years.

[Demongirlie]

I feel the same exactly the same way Se7en, I'm not looking for the knight in shining armour to sweep off my feet, tho that would be nice, most girl's fantasy.

I guess I just get a bit tired of looking, and all I see are blokes who are too young, fancy what they see but dont want to commit. Its a compliment that they fancy me, and I dont begrudge them their fear of commitment. I felt the same way at their age.

I'm just 30 myself and I'm not ready to have babies by a long shot, but I like toying with the future possibility in maybe 5/6years time. I just want to be with someone who's at the same place in his life as I am in mine. Someone who still wants to travel, study, read books, see films, try new experiences. A bloke who doesnt mind curling up on the sofa watching a black and white movie with me. And doesnt mind if I go out with the girls for a night out and trusts me just as I would trust him going out to watch footie with the guys.

[Se7en]

I have this deep desire to travel before I have kids. I have been thinking for a while of taking a carrer break for 6 months or so and going travelling. If I could find someone to go with that would be better. My brother and his wife dont want kids and they are never at home. Flitting off here there and everywhere in Europe on these cheap deals. That is what I would love to do. See the world with my other half before settling down.

[jimboy2]

this is my last post. first imppresions count, yup your right, attraction is made for another human being within seconds of seeing someone. however to be unhappy being single and then dismiss someone who didnt make the right first impression is a very hypocritical statement. this is things you can try;

open up like i said before try and engage new people.

be tolerant.

and dont act single

thats all folks

[Minxie]

awww, dont finish now Jimboy, this thread has kept me amused since yesterday. (saddo)

[Demongirlie]

Does anyone know what jimboy2 is talking about by "acting single" I wasnt aware I was acting single, or maybe I should act like a couple and talk to myself. Nothing beats your own company I guess ........?