Heartache

[Roughquest]

A guy i have been seeing has started to behave very odd towards me, normally he couldnt wait to phone/talk/text me, now almost no contact, (he is married) - but not sure why he is being like this, ignoring my nice texts to him and just replying short answers to normal everyday smalltalk texts - if i said to him 'i miss you' no reply, but i asked him his working shifts this week and got 'Mon/Tues days, Weds off, Thurs/Fri nights' - why is he being like this ? I did try to end it with his last week, but we sorted it out and were talking - now nothing - asked him whats up and no reply - even if he told me he doesnt want me to contact him it would be enough.

[Carakeel]

Roughquest, HE IS MARRIED!!! What on earth did you expect??? Leave the man alone, he is obviously already in hot water!

[Taz70]

I guess he's having a case of the guilts here. That's the trouble with messing around with married blokes. They want to have their cake and eat it and if women are willing to put up with it, they're going to keep on doing it.

Presumably, from the lack of contact it would appear that he's regretting the 'affair.'

Get over it and find somebody who's willing to put his all into a relationship instead of someone who can only offer part-time sex.

[RATTER15]

Roughquest, as this guy is married I suggest you get out of his life and stay out. Surely you have enough self respect and dignity to know when its over!! but I may be wrong after all you are knowingly coming between a man and his wife.

You know you are holding your head up to be shot making statements like that on here, so don't be surprised when the bullets fly!!

[wonderwoman1]

roughquest you need to leave the guy alone....he is married babes....find someone single who knows that you are the most important person in their life. Dont get hurt being "the other woman".

[maggie01]

Don't mean to sound nasty, but this is maybe what his wife has to put up with too. Get out while you can.

[sandyg2244]

ffs dont go near married men, its an insult , or it should be, if they think they have a chance with you.he sees you as a bodybag nothing more.forget him and remember there are a lot of single people out there who will want you for you and not some sex object.if you carry on with this , well, thats all you think you are good for! get rid of him!

[Roughquest]

I cant help it, cant help who we fall for. SOrry if my post has upset alot of peeps on here. Some of you say i deserve the slating and insults, that maybe but i cant help how i feel at the end of the day.

[wonderwoman1]

of course you cant help it. but do you really think he is going to leave his wife for you or are you happy just being (and i hate to use the phrase) his bit on the side?

[wonderwoman1]

i dont want to say too much on here but i know what you are dealing with. if you want to chat email me or add me to messenger if you think it will help
[email protected]

take care xx

[Roughquest]

Well, after almost 5 days of waiting etc etc and non reply to texts he has finally let me know he doesnt want to carry this on, he said its best for both of us. I am totally devastated. I feel so sad but cannot cry to ease the pain. I wish he would have talked to me, instead of a cold empty text and after all we have been through together.

[JulesBee]

I hate to be down on your Roughquest as I know you're feeling down but it's just karma - what goes around comes around - from someone who knows what it's like being on the other side I'm finding it hard to sympathise with you

You both made the choice to get into a relationship but these type of things always end in disaster. Even if he left his wife for you, could you have trusted him anyway?

I hope you're soon feeling better but next time go for an unattached man for your own self respect and happiness.

Imagine how you would feel if the shoe was on the other foot and your husband was cheating on you.