Millionaire date cont...

[jeanette1976]

Anyway, there are loads of things going around in my head and i'm not sure what to do. He's invited me to Leeds in a couple of weeks to see what kinds of things he does, but i'm worried he may want a kiss. We got on really well and I'm really glad that he's met the 'real' me not just me when i'm drunk or tipsy but I can't figure out how far to go with this. If I decided not to tak e it further, how can I say it to him without hurting his feelings? He really is a MAN and not a lad, so iknow i should go for it.

Sorry for the novel, but I'm REALLY out of touch! Thanks! X

[PinkFizz]

Curious - where did you meet this guy then in the first place?

[Octavius]

You are out of touch, an �8,000 watch is cheap tat.

I doubt after one date he has met the real you, after reading these posta I feel I know more about you than he does.

[Surreygirl30]

i was once in a very similar situation � a guy I met through work (who is a CEO of a big company and was so loaded he even had his own mansion/helicopter pad at a very young age) for some unknown reason really liked me and asked me out. On the date I spent the whole time thinking how he could pull someone so much nicer than me (looks and figure wise) and how scruffy I felt the whole time. I felt totally out of my league. In the end due to my lack of confidence and the fact that I wasn�t sure if I fancied him or if I was just flattered I didn�t see him again.

Anyway, I met him again through another conference and he said �oh you are the only girl to ever of blown me off� (as in the knock back sense) and he seemed truly gutted. Also made me think that I probably wasn�t the only one he had met in such a way either.

I have never regretted it as I truly believe there has to be a spark there and money etc is all materialistic (when you have lost someone close you learn that). All my mates said I was mad and my mate at work was mortified that I would knock back Mr Millionaire. All I can say is listen to your heart � money, wealth etc isn�t everything and I know love and the real deal is priceless. :-)

[nat_84]

why dont u just go so far as to marrying him....

then divorce him!

Seems to be working well for a few women these days....;oP

[jeanette1976]

I met him in a chatroom.... sounds a bit cheesy I know... Octavius, what I'm trying to say is that I'm NOT materialistic... and his watch WASN'T tacky and covered in diamonds! It was very simple... he's just written to be saying that he thinks I'm wonderful! I feel even more weird now...

Surreygirl, you're exactly right, i feel completely out of my depth. I'm not bothered about his money, it doesn't make a difference where he works... I don't have many clothes and I would feel under pessure to look good all the time!

[nat_84]

Curious - you say he doesnt brag yet you know all about his 600 cars and his �8000 watch....?

Im guessing you just chatted about this stuff online?

Just be yourself and relax. Treat him as you would any other man (even when u are lifting doors upwards on his ferrari....!!).

[Surreygirl30]

if i am honest the main reason i didn�t see him again was because i didn�t have many nice clothes and i haven�t a nice figure . The date itself went ok - but i spent so much of the time worrying i couldn�t enjoy it. He kept going on about meeting his family and I just thought god what if they saw me and felt their son could do so much better. It was just another world - but i am glad i met him etc.. but hey give me a good caring funny down to earth guy that has enough money to buy me a couple of drinks down the pub on a sat night and gives me goose bumps lol � saying that 4 years on and now I cant find a guy, maybe I should have overcome the fears and gone for it with him � who knows where it might have led.

Maybe you should tell him how you feel - maybe thats what i should have done eh :-)

[blond_law]

nats right - just be yourself. If u've been chatting online for a while and on the date he obviously knows that u haven't got the wealth that he has and that hasn't put him off. Why not go out with him a few times and see where it goes. U shouldn't spend anymore time thinking all these negative thoughts. If it doesn't work out u haven't lost anything.

I've been single 4 years too and would love to be wined and dined to get back in the throws of dating.

enjoy and see where it goes xxx

and as for octavius - i wish i had an eight grand cheap tat watch!!!!!!!!!!

[whiffey]

This could be a Jane Eyre - Mr. Rochester scenario, in which case you are in a delightful position.

You have to go out with him once more, and get him to pick you up in the McLaren. That is a seriously quick (and rare) car. You'll be one of just a handful who have ever had the privilege. When he picks you up say "I hear this is a fast car, show me what it'll do please !"

(0-60 in about 3.2 secs. Have fun and good luck)

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/McLaren_F1

[kipchik]

You say you're glad he has met the real you,but has he?
You didnt drink or smoke,do you usually,cos if so he hasnt met the real you has he,just met the person that you expected him to want?
If he wants a particular type of perfect woman with perfect fingers and posture etc maybe he should go looking for a mannequin,show him the REAL you wether you drink smoke or whatever,if he doesnt like the REAL you then he's the wrong guy,if he still likes you,see what happens,sorry if this is now totally off the topic but started typing 15 mins ago but had to go outside and watch the firemen!

[country_boy]

Like others have said, just be yourself, if you're not bothered about the money or what he does etc then you shouldn't get yourself too wound up.
If you feel you know him well enough, maybe get him round to yours and cook him a meal. You'll relax more and may know how you really feel afterwards. If he comes back after bangers and mash and angel delight, you could be on to a winner!!!

[Champagne]

Give me his number. I'll have a word with him on your behalf. Honest misses! ;o)

[joannie10]

I would be careful here - I take it by asking you to Leeds he means an overnight stay?? If not sorry I have misunderstood but if so then I would refuse this early on. You really dont know this person. Who tells someone the price of their watch?? I think he does not sound very genuine - sorry obviously I am a bit less trusting. I too think it would be nice to be wined and dined but careful who you do it with!

[maggie01]

I am sure it must be great to have loads of money or to go out with someone who has it, but what is the point if you can't be yourself. Everything about him seems to make you nervous or self concious. It may be because you haven't been on a date for some while. I would be very wary of going to Leeds at the moment. Wait untill you know him better. Tread carefully but enjoy it for what it is worth and just see how you goes.

[PinkFizz]

Not being a cynic here - but how do you know he has any of those things apart from the car he picked you up in?

[jeanette1976]

I'm really interested in what you all have to say... I also had my doubts, but then I've looked on his numerous websites, tv channel/ adverts, magazines with celebrity friends music and film, so theres no proof to say that he's NOT who or what he says he is... and it was great that when he was talking about his different companies, he was really excited and passionate about it, which I thought was excellent.... how many people REALLY love their job... and get paid a wedge for it! He didn't brag abiut his watch, and it was simple, but its the same as Beckhams (he provides all his cars), so I figured it to be approx. �8,000.... not that it matters, but there are a few of your queries with this... as far as his cars are concerned, his main company is designing, customizing and dealing supercars so he can pretty much pick and chose the latest models for himself.

What i meant by the 'real' me is because I used to have a drinking problem for about 15 years, and needed a drink to socialize or for confidence but I still tend to over-drink whenever I have a drink... I can't just have the one.

I'm totally aware that young rich guys are mainly arrogant and have ginormous egos soI was a bit wary... but he DOES seem ok.. confident but not overly.

I guess you're right about not meeting him overnight too soon... he may not be the gentleman he appears to be! x

[jeanette1976]

Oh, and i mentioned my date briefly to a male colleague and he knew who he was immediately and said he's seen him on tv and he was very reputable with the rich and famous... and if HE'S heard of them... ;D....if you want anymore proof, I can slip you a weblink... x

[crete]

jeanette, would i be right in thinking you are desperate to tell who this person is ,i am a wee bit cynical about the story.

[PinkFizz]

oooh go on then!