Is he really my friend?

[De-Niro]

I have this work colleague, who I get on with really well. Its my 21st birthday soon and I would like everyone to come clubbing with me.

He has said that he wont do this under any circumstances. He does not like this type of thing, but I have suggested that as he is my friend, he would try it for me on this special occasion. He has refused.

We have been friends for 2 1/2 years now and I really thought he would pull through for me this time as he knows how much it means to me.

I always assumed that true mates would sometimes do things they didnt like just because they know the other person will enjoy it. I'm not so sure anymore.

Just for the record, if it was an event that he wanted me to attend, I would certainly do it for him, even if I didn't like it, which i have already offered to do.

[jedimistress]

I agree with Octavius' suggestion. Why not go for quiet drink prior to the club, and he can leave when you move on? He may even decide to join you if he feels he can. It worries me when you say that if he agreed you would tell him he didn't have to come after all, you were just testing his friendship. That is quite manipulative and game playing.

[De-Niro]

Thanks people for your answers. It appears that a quite drink previous to the big finale would be good.

WendyS, you sound like your aggitated by my post. Why do you mock what you dont understand. All the clubs around by me have excellent extractor systems which prevent the clubs from becoming too smokey and certainly no pop clubs around here. Get the facts right and then come back.

Thanks again everyone.

[4getmenot]

You're welcome. As I said I know all too well it can make you feel that way, but try not to take it to heart and have a great 21st :-)

[De-Niro]

Thanks very much 4getmenot