Men and prostitutes

[yolande]

More and more men seem to be ok with going to prostitutes both here and abroad (e.g stag weekends in E.Europe etc). Do men om here do this? Or ladies, do your partners / sons / husbands think this is ok?

[ummmm]

errrrrr......no

[B00]

lol, as topical as your question may be right now, I highly doubt you're gonna get many men who are willing to admit they visit prostitutes. Likewise I also doubt you're gonna get any AB ladies stating that their husbands/partners/ sons etc have said that it's ok....and lived to tell the tale anyway!

[Goodsoulette]

My uncle goes to holland and germany regularly to do this. Im not entirely sure why he doesnt do it here but he doesnt. I dont see a problem with it. However I am sure my uncle is hooked on them due to my nan being a right crazy mum and hes had problems developing proper relationships ever since despite having been a really kind, gentle good looking man.

I dont know anyone who thinks its not ok. I personally would not want to have impersonal sex with anyone, and I dont understand why a man would want to have sex with a woman that could have been with numerous guys that day let alone how many she has been through in her lifetime.

Its supposedly the oldest profession around and it will always be around, its pointless criminalising these women, it would be far better making sure overage girls/women/boys/men were kept safe and tested regularly and started paying some tax. They certainly earn enough.

[yolande]

I was thinking about it because of this article, and obviously all the stuff in the news too. Lots of the men in the article seem more able to emotionally distance themselves from the fact that foreign girls are still someone's sister / daughter etc

http://women.timesonline.co.uk/article/0,,2378 9-2440117.html

[4getmenot]

probably because its illegal here goodsoulette. I think its a common thing in holland and you arent seen as some desperate pervert. I dont think i'd be able to let My bloke do it, I know sleeping with all these different clients cant be hygienic but just the thought them being drug users would make my skin crawl too

[yolande]

They said 30-40 prostitutes were working the streets in a place the size of Ipswich, then there must be one hell of a lot of men who are ok with it. Who are they all?

[China Doll]

I'm in two minds about this....

On the one hand...

I think it's easy to judge but I seem to remember it was shocking a few years back that you could go in to a cafe in Amsterdam and have a joint. I think these days it's pretty much taken for granted. Now you can go in to a brothel, have a quick fix and be done with it. Who's to say this won't be the norm in a few years time?

A lot of me thinks what goes on abroad stays abroad. Although protection is a must. I mean some lads holidays can get pretty messy. As can some ladies.

On the other hand....

I think I'd have a pretty big opinion on this if I ever found out someone I was with at the time had gone in to one...

So I honestly don't know... which beggers the thought 'why am I attempting to ask this question?!'

[saxy_jag]

This will sound weird. I am a woman, but I don't have problem, in general, with men visiting prostitutes. That's as long as the girls are making an informed choice and aren't forced into it for one reason or another. After all, women (non-prostitutes) have wheedled things out of men in return for sex for centuries.

I'm not sure about men who are in relationships visiting prostitutes. That doesn't seem right, somehow, whatever the reason. But where single men are unable to have sex any other way, there may be a point.

[Pippa68]

I agree wih saxy_jag!

[raysparx1]

If a bloke is single I don't see anything wrong with it, better that than molesting some innocent girl, it won't go away. maybe one day it will be legalised and the girls can work in safety.

[noxlumos]

Can I just point out that prostitution is not illegal in Britain please, it's soliciting and living off immoral earnings that actually is.
Had the recent changes in the law regarding brothels been more intelligently thought out, then the likelihood is that girls at the bottom end of the profession who are often drug addicted and therefore somewhat pushed into by circumstance would find it easier to ease themselves upwards and either out of the profession or into the more mainstreamn of it which is far safer.
I have never personally used prostitutes but I can see the attraction of no strings sex if you have abusy lifeststyle or unfulfilling marriage, and I have the utmost respect for the girls who do what is actually a very sensitive, difficult job and who are often denigrated by society as something unpleasant and worthless when actually quite the reverse is true.

[yolande]

I have nothing against prostitution, and think it should be legalised too. I more have something against any man close to me who could justify paying someone to fund their drug habit / take advantage of the fact that they may be in a desperate situation. If all prostitutes were doing their job by choice, then I would be more than happy with legalisation.

[raysparx1]

Of course strictly speaking nox you are right, but soliciting is, which is why the street girls are pulled in all the time, a complete waste of money and manpower, cos as soon as they are released they are back to the same spot I would just like it to be taken off the streets and the girls working in a safe environment, with proper security and health checks

[johnlambert]

The recent murders have made me think that there may be a strong case for legalising the worlds oldest profession. The girls would be in a safe clean environment, non working girls woldnt be targeted by kerb crawlers, and the government would make billions in tax revenue. I know that in the UK people are still set against it, but look at Europe, Belgium, Germany, Holland etc have state run brothels, and have had them for years. Britain is still stuck with Victorian double standards and, in my opinion needs to realise that prostitution is never going to go away, so we may as well look to Europe for a lead

[noxlumos]

Nothing will completely take it off the streets, but decent legislation will really help. Remember that streetwalkers are the bottom rung so to speak, but the public face of prostitution. They are not representative of most prositutes. A lot of prostitutes have very respectable jobs and for most it's a career choice rather than something which they are beaten or abused into. However its the ones that are bullied, frightened and co-erced into it that need the greatest help and I'm not sure they will get it until society gets off it's high horse generally and accepts that prostitutes are people with families and feelings just like everyone else.

[raysparx1]

nox Could not agree with you more, they are all humans, with feelings and families, and unfortunately looked on like something on the bottom of a shoe.

[beryllium]

Some women stop sleeping with their husbands and then those men source it elsewhere. Some guys are in relationships but still think it's ok to hire working girls when they are in a group and want a bunch of girls for a bit of sneaky extras and it's usualy those guys out for a good night that are the ones on coke and not the girls.
The men who kerb crawl? with their 20quid? those girls need protecting more than any of them. No one cares about them, they are throw away humans and the only people who end up thinking about them and saying how bl00dy awful it all is is when they get murdered. Otherwise? we all go about our day to day business without a second thought for girls on the street or the men supporting their habits.
And ladies? none of you will ever truly know whether your bloke has seen a lady of the night because it is so secretive that it only happens to other women eh?