Is there any point?

[suzie07]

I i'll try to keep this brief, Me any my boyfriend of 3 years, (both 22) have been arguing a LOT recently, and its getting very serious, we literally cant have 1 single conversation without him getting worked up and frustrated! we've tried time apart...going out for meals ect, but he just cant help but argue with me! I am not saying that i am perfect (far from hehe) but he has actually admitted that most of the time it is his fault coz he gets frustrated with me..ive tried to keep peace and its got to the point where im having to think about what i'm saying before i speak! like im walking on egg shells! Every single time I raise my voice or disagree with him about anything he flies of the handle! We love eachother very much, and have talked of moving in together but I cant see past this arguing, our relationship can be perfect one second, then literally all hell will break loose! I know this must sound sooo cheesy and every couple has their problems, and I understand there are a lot worse problems than this, but its really getting me down.. I love him with all my heart, he's actually very loving and caring...I think I just need a little advice, or guidedence... do I just leave it like this? is it just a phase? I have no idea what to do! thanks :)

[PinkFizz]

I agree with zimzam. If he is constantly biting your head off,in from of his child as well,you're wary of even speaking,and he won't listen when you talk to him then I can't see any future in this whatsoever. I would write him a letter telling him all this and say that unless he changes it;s over.Then take it from there.

Big hug to you.xx

[suzie07]

OMG pinkfizz that is a great idea!!!! Never even thought of that, at least with a letter I can speak some sense, without having to bite my lip in case he throws a wobbler! Great advice thanx very much! :)

[PinkFizz]

Good god - I have been useful for a change - lol.
Seriously, he can't shout at a letter can he? .He will have to take time to read it,and will probably pay much more attention as he can go back to it and re-read it.

Write down his good points as well(if any!!) and stress how much he has changed.

Let me know how it goes. x

[kaylamay]

I cant see how he can be very loving and caring if he acts this way with you, a very uncaring and unloving way. I think he should concentrate on raising his child and getting out of his parents house so he can set up his own house hold one day so he feels more confident with his world. Sorry, i dont mean this to sound cruel, but he does not need the extra complications of a girlfriend when he has so much to do, mainly raising a responsible child to become asset to this country. I think you should back away and please do not bring any other children in to this situation. Would you really want this man to become the father of your future children, a father who has no patience for the mother. He has too much on his plate and NEEDS to just concentrate on his child and making a living to support that child. Not a good idea either to move in together, does this include his child? because if it does and then things don't work out it will be another upset in this poor child's life, sounds like he's already lost one mother. He needs to be a DAD ONLY until this child comes of age, no matter how many more years that will be. Back away and find a man that does not have such weighty responsibilities and concerns. So sorry, i know the heart tells us to do one thing and the mind another. Somethings are just not meant to be no matter how much would would like them to be. Be brave darling, and carry on without him.
Mikala