to save you looking in your last thread - newmantoday, I think you need to reassess your feelings for this girl. If you had real love for her you would not be calling her a ****, nor would you be wanting to punch her! If she had a one night fling with someone and you do actually love her (I am presuming you do know the meaning of the word love), then you should sit down calmly with her and find out what really did happen, why it happened and whether or not you two still have a future together, one in which there will not be a danger of this ever happening again. Even considering punching her is incredibly stupid and totally uncalled for! Punching someone - whether it be a man punching a woman or a woman punching a man is just simply WRONG and achieves nothing!!! Nor does calling her a ****! It may well be that you haven't exactly been the ideal partner either and that she was looking for something you were not giving her. It doesn't excuse her infidelity, but just consider that there will be two sides to this story. Either way, there is no need to have a go at any ABers. You post a question and you know that everyone has the right to answer. That is how the AB works. If you have to get nasty because of that, then you need to rethink you attitude as well. Most people like Crete, as do I, and don't like any ABer being singled out for abuse. This is a friendly site and we would like to keep it that way. Best of luck.