MacMillan Cancer Nurse

[muchlovex]

mum has C, and she's just been allocated a macmillan nurse. What exactly are their roles? Are they supposed to help the family members as well?

Mum starts chemo next week.

[Katie~77]

It says here that they also help families.x
http://www.cancerbackup.org.uk/Resourcessuppor t/Advancedcancer/Dyingwithcancer/related_faqs/ QAs/602

[bigmamma]

Hello muchlovex .:-)
Your mums macmillan nurse will be there for her and for the family ,and will be supportive both practically and emotionally .
This is a hard time for you , take care . x

[naomi24]

Hello muchlove, you and your mum will have the best support anyone could wish for with Macmillan nurses. They are absolutely wonderful and I can't praise them highly enough. This is a very difficult time for you, but with those nurses you will have real friends who totally understand the situation and they will be there not only for your mum, but for you and the family too. x

[raysparx1]

Hello muchlove, so sorry to hear about your mum, hope all goes well for her, Macmillan nurses are lovely caring people who will help you through this, they will be there for you and will really look after your mum with dignity and treat her with respect, my wife had breast cancer and the only advice I can give you is to talk to each other, love each other and laugh, and stay positive whatever is happening be positive, wish you all good luck and lots of love, Ray xx

[muchlovex]

Hello raysparx,

You are a really nice gentleman...I don't know whether you remember me from last year? You sponsored me �20 to do the Great WOmens Run in Sunderland. My AB id was Mowbray, but I had to change as i was having log-in problems.
Mums cancer has now spread to her Liver and Lymph nodes in her pelvis. Next week she starts chemo. I am abolutely freightened by this whole thing - but i am being strong for mam.
Thank you ray and thank you all
Love from
Muchlovex xxxx

[tradey]

ive been through this myself with my dad,yes the nurse is there for your mum but also for any of her family.these nurses are very high on my list of special people,they deserve a medel for what they do,your mum and your family will be going through it at the min,just remember your mums being well looked after,i wish you and your mum all the luck in the world,take care xx

[raysparx1]

Hello muchlove, I didn't realise who you were, and yes I do remember Mowbray,and the run you did, I am so sorry to hear that the cancer has spread, but you really are going to be looked after, it is as you know going to be a really tough battle, no good pretending otherwise, but you must never give up hope, I really do wish you lots of strength to help you get through this, keep mum positive, and if you feel like crying, then cry,don't bottle it up, there are lots of lovely people on here who will try to help you so please keep in touch, wish you all the luck in the world,take care of yourself and your lovely mum, Ray xx

[unruliejulie]

muchlove, i remember you doing that when you were mowrbray. Im so sorry to hear that Mum is still very poorly. From what i know of them the macmillan nurses are absolutely wonderful and will help you all. Take Rays advice, i could never put it better than him! I wish you both loads of love and some luck too! Jules X

[whiskeysheri]

Hi, muchlovex, hun.

As has been said already, I'm really sorry to hear that your mum's still unwell. I'm sure you're a great support to her, though, and the MacMillan nurse will, I'm sure, help you all.

Sending you lots of love and luck. Take care of yourself, too. x x x x x

[jacey]

My thoughts are with you muchlove, my daughter's just finished her chemo. Try to stay strong for your mum, and take all the support you need from the nurses. Good Luck to you and your mum. xx

[jacey]

One other thing, although they're not pleasant, the 'cold cap' did save my daughters' hair. There's a thin patch at the back, but she has managed to get away without needing a wig. xx

[Gef]

Can I just add my support for the MacMillan nurses? They did a wonderful job for my Dad in his final months and also offered great support to the rest of the family.

Best wishes to you Much, your Mum and family.

[yinyang]

Hi muchlove
Nothing else I can add to the answers you've already been given. Just wanted to add my support to you and your family and wish you all the best.
My dad's treatment has been delayed due to other health problems but , like your mum , he should be starting his chemo in the next week or so.
Look after your mum, but remember to take care of yourself as well.
Alison. x

[Delusional]

Hi Muchlovex
Ive been a palliative care nurse (macmillan nurse) for 5 years. Emotional support for the patient and their family is a very large part of our role, guiding and supporting them through their diagnosis, treatment and prognosis. We're also very skilled in symptom control, working with GPs and hospital staff to make the patient is as comfortable as possible. Your mums macmillian nurse should call her at least once a week and will call to see her whenever she needs her. They will be able to answer all of your questions, and can also liaise with hospices for respite and day centre placements and put you in touch with volunteer groups who do home visits so a loved one will have company when a carer needs some time out.
My thoughts are with you, be strong.......

[muchlovex]

Good morning everyone,
I just like to say to you all that I am very grateful for your support and kind words.

Mum started her chemo yesterday, she should be out of hospital later on today.

When I went to visit her yesterday she said she was in pain so I had a quiet word with the nurse...as mum always keeps quiet. The nurse spoke to her and said she needs to inform them of her pain so they can give her the correct dosage of painkillers. Mum said she was worried incase she's overdose. I am so worried for her, she is so brave.

I will keep you all informed of her progress.

Special thanks to Raysparx and unruliejulie for you support last year....
Muchlovexx

[unruliejulie]

thanks for the update muchlove. Your Mum must ask for any pain relief, bless her. She does sound incredibly brave but then again, so do you!!!! I hope the chemo goes well for her. Please keep us updated on her progress. Loads of love Jules XXXX

[muchlovex]

Hello Jules,

Thank you for your kind words. To be honest today is one of my 'positive' days. Last week I was crying all of the time, not in front of mum, but at home and sometimes at work.

I told the nurses that no matter what happens I do not want mum to feel any pain what-so-ever.

I telephoned the hospital before and she will be allowed to go home at around tea-time.

I am dreading her hair falling out...lets hope the chemo works.
Love
muchlovexx

[unruliejulie]

muchlove, i have everything crossed for you! it will be good for her to be at home now and look after yourself as well as Mum! You deserve that and need it too! XXXX

[raysparx1]

Hello muchlove,

I really feel for you, I cannot put into words how much I am feeling your pain, my eyes are wet, I can only send your mum and you my love and best wishes, I wish I could take the pain away from you but we are all so helpless, your mum and you are going to go through so many emotions over the coming weeks,you will have highs and lows, your mum will feel good,your mum will feel bad,but you will be by her side to love her to comfort her and just be there, if I can help you in any way please e=mail me,

[email protected] I will reply to you,i promise you, take care muchlove and please give your mum my love along with the beautiful Julies, hope to hear from you, love from me, Ray XXX