death

[nannon]

my granddad dies last night and i feel weird...never lost anyone in my family before and cant seem to quite comprehend that he's gone. I didnt get a chance to see him before he died and feel awful.
Not sure how i'm supposed to be feeling....

[Goodsoulette]

Grief is a really individual thing. There is no set way to be feeling, Nannon. Sorry to hear about your sad times and I hope it goes as smoothly as is possible for you.

[RATTER15]

ab_user why dont you just back off, do you really think that nannon needs your abuse right now!!!

It doesnt fit in with your code of ethics, shame!!

This is not the time or place for a slanging match

[monkeyeyes]

Well done, ab_user !!
Nannon is already greatly upset and has made a post to a forum, where she is known, inviting the rest of us to give her a bit of a lift on this difficult day...........

You may find it strange but your first posting wasn't really necessary, was it ? What did it 'bring to the table' ? And your subsequent defences have only aggravated the posting.

I'm deeply sorry for your loss, Nannon. I hope that you find comfort in these next difficult days; your Grandad wouldn't want to be the cause of your tears..........

[ab_user]

It's not abuse!m I have not been abusive. nannon is a perfect stranger to me and although it is sas she has lost someone, I cannot share in her grief or feel anything personal towards her. I will voice my opinion whether you or anyone else like it or not. Does no one else find it strange that she has posted on here hours after her loss?

[nannon]

so why just not post anything then? You could have just said nothing. And no i cannot just go home.

Thank you everyone else for your replies...

[johnlambert]

ab_user
to you we may be strangers, but some of us consider other people that we communicate with every day on here as friends, cyber friends perhaps, but still friends who have gone through the same experiences that we are currently going through and we can ask those 'friends' for advice, as nonnon has. Give her a break at this difficult time please?
God bless you nannon

[nannon]

i have already explained why i have posted here so soon - stuck in work feeling like **** and just wanted some advice about how i should be feeling cuz i feel a bit of a mess

[monkeyeyes]

No, we don't find it strange, you berk !

Please go away quietly and leave those of us with a modicum of sense and sensibility to send comforting posts to Nannon.

Of course, you have the right to voice your opinions on this forum............I, for one, am asking you nicely and respectfully to desist on this particular thread.

[ab_user]

nannon, I posted that I was sorry for you loss, I contributed to your thread. It is sad, but I am entitled to my opinion, If it was my loss maybe I would feel different, I don't know. Johnlambert, you cannot possibly consider people you have never met or spoken to as friends. Most people have shared experiences at some time or another and I am sure that almost everyone has had a close fmaily or friend loss but that doesn't make us all friends because have had similar experiences or because we chose to use and post on the same website.

[rom]

hey, im really sorry to hear of your loss. i was the same when my grandad died, he was 88 but died suddenly, i still miss him and its been 2 years but time is a good healer (everyone says that eh?). ab_user was out of order. i see absolutley nothing wrong with your post. take care and let us know how you are xxx

[4gottenabout]

Some people like to talk to people they don�t know at times like this as family are obviously going through same thing, and some people don�t like to be a burden ab-user. No you�re not an idiot but there is no right or wrong as to how nannon should be feeling or talking to. xx

[ab_user]

You can all get off of your high horse now! nannon, I apologise if I have upset or offended you with my post, there was no malice intended whatsoever, I was merely voicing an opinion, a thought.

[4gottenabout]

and sometimes its best just to keep stum :-)

[ab_user]

4gottenabout, I can totally understand wanting to talk to someone who is outside the whole situation, the point I was making is the timing of it, it just seemed too soon to me to be posting something so personal as this when it happened such a short time ago.

[GypsyGSD]

I certainly do not find it strange to post on here after losing some one , we all react in different ways ,and reaching out for comfort from ppl who can relate to a loss can be a source of comfort GypsyX

[4gottenabout]

Each to their own I guess. If I was stuck at work I'd come on here too, but I dont think I would be in work myself, but obviously nannon had to go to work. You do have a right to your own opinion just sometimes a time and a place. xx

[monkeyeyes]

We've got that bit, ab_user..........you think it's too soon, etc., etc.,

The rest of us, however, don't...............you have no idea of nannon's circumstances right at this minute, so your judgements about family, etc. rallying around are a little unfair.

You have your right to post to this forum, but just to post because you think it weird, isn't really helpful, is it ?

[jrobinson200]

ab user, sometimes people want to hear other advise off here becuase they are an outsider and can offer advise that maybe friends and family cant. i know itas not the same but when my cat died i came on here as i had a quetion that i didnt like to ask my family as they had also lost the pet. sometimes u just want to speak to someone u dont know and who doesnt kno you......
nannon, i havent lost anyone close to me but we lost my boyfriends grandad last year and i have to say it helped to see him in the chapel of rest; we got to say what we hadnt had chance to, and i have to say it was peaceful and almost as tough he was finally at rest and il always remeber him like that. x

[ab_user]

i think this is a case of agree to disagree I'm afraid 4gottenabout, some people are too far up on their soapbox to hear any one elses opinion. xx thanks for the bit of understanding though.

[ab_user]

monkey eyes, I have every right to post something that I believe to be true, whether or not the rest of you agree or not, I don't care.

I find it strange, I have posted I find it strange and you have all jumped on that for some reason because it differes to your view.

Well I don't care. I wills ay what I think, regardless of what the rest of you think.