12 yr old..belly button pierced

[luckyman]

my x wife told me ysterday she was taking my 12 yr old daughter 2 get her belly button pierced...i blew a gasket!! am i wrong in thinking that this just isnt rite? shes at an all girl school and her mum says all the rest of her friends are getting it done,,,i think its discusting and i am trying to find out which salon or tattooist has done it ..im going to the police and social services but i fear this will upset my daughter..i dont want to blame her as she is only a child, can a salon do this to a young girl at 12? even with the mothers consent? wot will i do about this? am at my wits end now ,really..am i being stupid or am i old fashioned? im 40 i done some silly stupid things when young but i dont want my daughter going down the same road...help and advice please

[legend758duo]

angel i think you can get it done with parental consent.ive seen 14 yeear old kids here with piercings and tatoos too.almost matched their mothers.god help us the chavs are coming.

[Ethel]

There is no legal age for body piercings, so you can't report it to the police or social services - and in my opinion to do so would be very wrong.

I dislike body piercings but wouldn't call it disgusting.
It is so common nowadays as to be on a par with ear piercings.

I think that if your ex wife didn't take her to a reputable salon, your daughter would probably have it done behind both parents' backs - it is the way of children.

My guess is she will soon get fed up of the care a belly piercing needs and it will grow out - it is not the same as ear piercings where the holes or there for life.

You need to calm down and be a bit more reserved about this - otherwise your daughter will not appreciate you criticising her or her friends.

[123everton]

Luckyman (a hint of irony there) I'm with you all the way here. My 15 year old niece got a tattoo, if that'd been my child I'd be bouncing.
But by complaining vociferously (Ethel and Angel) are right you'll create an awful lot of heat and very little light.
The best solution is to show infctions when they've gone wrong (she'll dismiss that as it won't happen to her, because it never does etc.) one thing you could do is remind that if she has children one day that piercing will turn into one almighty stretch mark right across her tummy! If your ex wife has got stretch marks then ask her to show them to her if that does'nt do it nothing will.

[Ethel]

Are you sure she hasn't had it done already, had a right earful from mum and they are just covering up for her - making it alright with dad, sort of thing?

[CheekyChops]

angel12, I live in Stoke and know plenty of people under 16 with belly button piercings (amongst other things). I don't know whether they lied about their age or what but they definately have them and one of them is only 12!!

[beejaybee]

I don`t think that parents have the right to get their children pierced. You see all ages with piercings nowadays from babies upwards. A child might say they want one, but regret it when they`re older. Too late then

[Drisgirl]

My daughter had hers done at 14 -I signed the consent form as I knew she would just go ahead and at least this was a decent place.
She is now 19 -has never been an issue at all -lets face it -worse things happen at sea.
She also got her first tattoo at 15 -again we were with her -its beautiful and has only had one other done since -so all in all she hasnt gone off the beaten track in fact had we put our foot down she would have been worse.

And no she isnt a chav in fact she is as far from a chav as you could get -she just is unique and knows her own mind and looks fabulous -well I would say that -wouldnt I?

Dont over react at this type of thing -its mild compared with what you will have coming to you -lol

[B00]

I'm with luckyman, I'd be furious!

I'd be thinking along the lines of not only having the piercing itself done, but she'll be wanting to wear clothes that show it off, ie cropped tops. I'm probably being very old fashioned here but I wouldn't allow my daughter out in public with her belly on show everywhere at only 12 years old.

Quite what the OP can do I dunno, it's a fine line between letting your daughter know that it's against your wishes and alienating her.

Good luck luckyman- you'll need it.

[luckyman]

iercings at 12? wot nxt? im really worried about the future...drugs? going with boys at a yng age? shes a good child,very hard working at school ,good grades etc etc,,,i woudnt mind if she was 17...but for god sake people who posted here saying its ok...wake up!!! shes a child!! its just not rite!! my x wifes mother was very relaxed and let her do wot she wanted ,well,she started using drugs at 14yrs of age,,,shes ok now but she put her parents through pure hell for yrs.....i dont want go on but this is a big issue and i just want to say its not rite or proper way to raise kids...im saying this also in the hope my x reads this and see s other peoples views o the matter......

[helpinghand]

i am 25yrs old and i have a three yr old daughter and if she came to me and asked i would totally freak out i would have to tell her the old saying that was used on me " if all your friends jumped off a bridge would you" i could see getting it at 17 but you are right. 12 yrs old in a medical field she is still a child not even old enough to receive an adult dose of medicine. your x wants to be her friend not a mother and that can be dangerous for every one

[danababy]

i had my belly botton pierced when i was 11..
i put my date of birth as 13 and they obveously thought i was 13..
but when i went back to school the deputy head teacher reported it to social services and i had to take it out otherwise i wouldent have been aloud back into school..

i want it done again now im 12.. but my mum says she dosent want to go through all that with the social services again.. I dont understand what ther problem is?
They shouldent be able to report it, its a piercing!!!