Can you believe that ...

[theonlyone]

i'm having to sort a funeral and a brother
who has not any contact for years has
appeared ..front pew ..and a copy of
the will ...all the funeral stuff is done
so feel a bit peed off ..they will be
sad as just enough to give him a good
send off ....
Money .....
Bit of a odd Q ...

[saxy_jag]

You know what they say? Where there's a will, there's a grieving relative.

Just make sure that the copy of the will that the brother has is the most up-to-date one, though, before anyone acts on it.

[bednobs]

well i'm srry but so what? how do you know they arent genuinely regretting not being in contact? or genuinely grieveing? if there IS any money in the will for the brother, it will be because the person wanted to leave it to them! And it'll save the executors having to hunt for them

[theonlyone]

His brothers never even bothered to
visit ..money will always bring the best
out of people ...

[sara3]

maybe you don't know the full story, or have only heard one side of it.

anyway, if he's named in the will he'd be entitled whether he showed up at the funeral or not.

sad though..

[cazzz1975]

Regardless of what may have happened in the past Im sure he would not have wanted to miss the funeral, money or not, its wrong to assume he is only there for money without knowing his side of the story.

[terambulan]

Surely the bruv has come out of respect. Not everyone attending funerals looks for hand-outs!

[alishalexy]

I can hear what your saying, yet look at it this way, if you don't turn up, you would probly say that he couldn't even be bothered to turn up at the funeral and use it later.
Your in a no win situation when theres a funeral, dam if you do and dam if you don't.
He may of had his reasons why he hasn't bothered for years.
And is it not up to the individual who passed on whether to give them something or not.
He's your brother forgive him, after all you chose to do it all, he never asked you. You could of walked away also. Seems like your gutted for having to take on the responsibility.
In my culture people get together to offer to pay for the funeral and arrange it. Its a privelegde that you could do the right thing in the end.
It can't have been easy for him to turn up knowing he hadn't bothered and what type of reception he would get.