Can friends ever be lovers?

[SupaAbzyBall]

Just would like to know ABers opinion on this topic. Has anyone been mates with someone, then been in a relationship with them? How did it happen? Did one just tell the other how they felt? How was the break up? Friends again? Also, what if the friend didnt feel the same way, did the friendship regain strength?

I always seem to be mates with the girls I like, by which I am already in the 'friends zone'! I feel like I have more to gain then loose?

[controvert]

It worked well for me. We were together for a couple of years. The thought of sex with a friend always left me on a high, so why not. When I got fed up, I just txt her to say it was over, saved all that emotional blackmail. I still wanted to be friends, but her mates turned her against me. Funny thing is, I'm with one of them now, another friend. Just get out of it what you can, without becoming emotionally involved.

Andy Hughes.

[SupaAbzyBall]

Cool Andy, but how did you take it to the next step? Just tell her? Drunken snog?

[controvert]

A bit of both Supa, make sure she's had enough to drink, she'll start slobbering all over you.

Andy Hughes.

[Velvetee]

Often those types of relationships work the best and last the longest. It's equally important to be good friends with your partner, as well as being lovers.

[Seafarer1966]

I sleep with one of my best friends occasionally. She's on her own and can't be bothered living with a bloke again after two failed marriages and loads of live in blokes. She enjoys her own company but likes someone to cuddle up to now and again. We look at it as purely recreational...like going bowling or to the cinema....but free!

[Jamie29]

I've dated a friend, but it took me a long time to ask her out. We dated on and off for years. My wife isn't too keen on her, and doesn't understand that she's my oldest friend. I wouldn't go back to her again, but we're still good friends. She's getting married this year, so it's all ended well in my case.

Good luck, and if you really like a girl, go ahead and ask her out!

[China Doll]

Andy is that really you?

[controvert]

Hello China, yes it's me. I don't get on here much now, too busy writing articles for the music industry. A bit late, but Merry Christmas.

Andy Hughes.

[China Doll]

Bit harsh were to your friend I thought actually, seemed unlike you. How was Spain? Did you manage to get to that gig on new years eve and was it any good?

[minimonkey]

didnt work for me! friends for 6 months - together for 18months - but then we split up recently so i am not ready for friendship and not sure i ever will be - still too raw...sometimes better left alone!

[SupaAbzyBall]

I would love to say you guys have helped, but you haven't!

It seems like a case by case situation. However, I really wanna know how to 'crank it up to the next level'! As I mentioned earlier do you just mention it over dinner? Or while dancing in a club? Or will the time feel right?

Probably the best advice is not to have female friends at all and just date every person you fancy!

[ummmm]

I'm in a relationship with my mate. I can thank Leggy for that as he kept going about eyeball licking. I hadn't seen him for a while and when he walked into the pub I licked his eyeball. Things changed from then on......we got together not long after.

That sounds mental but it's true....

[legendis.god]

ummmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm


and they mocke dthe power of the lickkkkk



lol




i am the man

the messsiahhhhhhhhhhhh



the legend





cheque in the post?

lol

[ummmm]

We still do it as well.....

Just like we were still just mates :-)

Not in the bedroom though......

[20SilkCut]

My one and only eyeball licker turned out to be an axe-murderer 15 years later....i had a gut feeling there was something strange about him!!!! lol

[legendis.god]

silkytalks peeesh



ummmmmmmmmmmm i know you do it in the bedroom


youre such a liarrrrrrrrrrrr



lol

[ummmm]

Oh well....I might get the house then....

[ummmm]

I do not leggy......It's dark.

[legendis.god]

ummmmmmmmmmmm

do you do it in the dark??


lol




and if you do

then feeeeel your way


lmao



wot a liar btw

[20SilkCut]

errrr...i beg to differ legend....i certainly dont talk 'peesh' as you call it....the guy had mental problems, slightly noticeable when i knew him, and 15 years later with the addition of alcohol and drugs...well..,.he totally flipped