should your husband discuss his finances with you?!!

[scruffbag]

I would appreciate your help please!
Could you please tell me if it is normal for your husband not to discuss his own finances with you?!!
I am from a family where we discuss everything openly.
I find it difficult when my husband will not tell me about his own finances, what he earns etc.
Please help. I would value your thoughts.
Many thanks!

[scruffbag]

Thanks everyone I am dealing with it at the moment.
Thanks for the great answers, especially the one from andy-hughes.
I am a teacher Andy!

[lil123]

I feel that if they have nothing to hide than yes.

[albaqwerty]

please let us know how you're doing/keeping
you have supoort on here...i know it's only faceless internet stuff but at other sides of screens are humans (Mostly)
maybe he's saving up for a nice surprise for you...a cruise or something nice

thinking of you

alba xx

[Mr Veritas]

No this is definitely not normal in a marriage.
Even when Elsie and I married(in 1948) we talked about finace openly,and this was a time when the man held the pursestrings.
If this is only a recent development,then like others I think he is holding something back,maybe his in financial difficulties and doesn't want to worry you (which of course IS exactly what he IS doing!)
I can only say,tell him just how much it is eating you up,he may not realise just what effect it is having on you.
Hiding things (problems) does no good,it doesn't make them go away.
A marriage is a partnership,and at the moment you have been (rightly or wrongly) cold shouldered out of it.
You may have to push a bit to get back in,but don't be frightened just make it clear you are there for him whatever difficulties he is in.

[jno]

for us it's not normal, we've always had joint accounts. For some people it is. But in your case it hasn't been normal and suddenly he's clamming up? It's hard not to suspect something is up. It may be nothing relationship-killing but I do think you have the right to try to clear the air on this.

[craft1948]

My first husband and I were very open about our incomes.....I kept mine and spent his..........

[albaqwerty]

change your online name!!

holdurheadup high
keep your dignity when you have a chat with him

[caththecrazy]

Craft love it - my nanny used to tell my g'dad when he'd say you've overspent - no you've under deposited!!!