I am at my wits end

[dinkleboo]

I dont know why I have posted this question but I am furious and need to vent! I met my partner 2 years ago, and his parent hit the roof when they found out about me as I have 2 children, they told him he is wasting his life with someone like me and refered to me as a scumbag etc, this went on for a good few months until the relationship carried on and they realised we wasnt going to split up. They used to arrange dinner parties and invite my fella and not me, which wasquite hurtful. After 11 months they decided they were ready to meet me minus my children.....I went along with this for my partners sake and was polite etc, after approx 6 months they decided it was time to meet my children. The children were polite and respectable in there home, I couldnt have asked for better behaviour from them. We have been invited to other things and we have attended, but I find it frustrating when my little boy is sitting there fed up and the adults are all fighting for my partners nephews attention, it just really grates on me.

A month ago his sister got married and I was invited to the wedding without the children, I went BUT only for my partners sake, I really didnt want to go, but made a good effort to mingle and chat to people I didnt know, and everyone said how much they liked me to my fella. When it was time for the bride and groom to have pics taken, there was a family pic, which included the bride (his sister) n groom, her parents (my fellas mum n dad), the other sister and her husband, also my fella, minus me in the pic.....I was standing there like a lemon while people were looking at me like, why isnt she in the pic, infact I wasnt asked to be in any of the photos, that really was my last straw and since that I have gone with what I want and do not want anythin to do with his family ever again, they have made me an outcast for long enough and I cant tolerate it anymore, I wont do it to myself or my kids.

[sacha.86]

mizzy im not sayin u havent got a point about some of the fings u say. But u just come across very cold with everything

[naomi24]

Rather that than an unhappy, abused wife, Mizzy.

[sacha.86]

and wot makes u fink that just becoz sum1 is unhappy with there relationship that they opened there arms or legs strate away?

[naomi24]

But she is abused, Mizzy, He may not be thumping her regularly, but he's mentally abusing her.

No need to be so touchy. I'm not dictating to you. I'm simply stating my opinion, as you are.

[sacha.86]

youve really got ur back up chill out

[naomi24]

There are two sides to every story, but we are unlikely to hear the other side of this, so we can only take her word that this is what's happening, and work on it from that point of view.

[sacha.86]

she doesnt sound like she wants to split with him and ur rite we dont no the other side. So its about offering her things she can to try and resolve the problems b4 making any hasty decition

[sacha.86]

no english born and bread with dislexia is that a problem? Mizzy or r u just finding sumthin 2 moan about

[dh001]

Mizzybat: 'mistakes caused by a congenital and developmental condition'. Is the same true for very poor grammar??

[dh001]

Mizzybat: I see. Maybe very poor grammar is just an education issue.

[tamborine]

No single woman is a 'lonely old spinster' today.

Their own income/travel/holidays/self supporting/contained/clubbing/socialising/no responsibilites etc etc. That's an enviable lifestyle......you'd be daft to give it up for OH, kids & baggage.

[sacha.86]

yes mizzy them bits were slang or abreviations. Have u got a problem with that aswel. I was dragged up on a council estate with not the greatest of educations and find it easier to write like that so im not as worryed about how many mistakes that ive made. Is that ok with u? Or r u going to find something else to moan about