Love!!

[bballwardy7]

I am in love with someone 10 years older than me! At my youngish age the age gap is too much at the moment! We are really close and talk to each other all the time it is great, we talk about anything and everything! But it drives me insane that i cannot be with him! What should i do?

[woofgang]

how old are you? how old is he? are either of you married to someone else?

[bballwardy7]

im a teenager! he is 26 no not married

[blueeyedlass]

by teenager do you mean 13 or 17 because theres a bit of a difference? my boyfriend is 16 years older than me we got together when i was 19 and were still together 5 years later with a baby boy.but i feel i have to warn you that you may be in for some agro when we first got together i fell out with my whole family over him so make sure you really know if your feelings are truly real or else it could be alot of bother for nothing.i may as well add that all my family now get on great with my boyfriend and love their grandson which i take great pleasure in reminding them now and again that they would not have had him if they had their way.

[woofgang]

if you are 16 (as I conclude from the math) are you sure he views you in the light of a serious relationship and not as a "nice kid" (no offence) is he someone who shouldn't have a relationship with you (teacher, counsellor, youth worker)?

Are you sure of your own feelings? again, no offence but at sixteen it is easy to think "this is it," when maybe it isn't. Is there anyone with a cool head on this who knows both of you who you could talk to?...Your post implies that your parents may not be an option?, although this might be a good idea.

Please don't think that I am patronising you. I met my husband of 30 years when I was 14 and he was 17 and dating my older sister. I "knew" and so did he so he kept in touch with the family until I was 16 when we started going out and we married when I finished college at 21.

During that time quite a few of my friends met "the one" onlky to be proved horribly and miserably wrong.

Lastly a warning for which I apologise to you and your man but feel I have to say it. I am sure that you know this man's background well and that he introduces you to his friends and wants every one to know how he feels too. If any of those things are not true, then please be very careful.

 

[SGKelloe32]

As long as you are past the age of consent and it isnt going to hurt anyone then personally i cant see the problem. Just be wary that you wont get used. I went out with a 24 year old when i was 16, it didnt do me any harm, i preferred him to lads my age,as he was more mature and suited me better. I have since met a lad a year younger than me and have a baby to him , and kicked him out a month ago, because i felt that i was too mature for him. As long as you both want the relationship, follow your heart.

[Greedyfly]

My fella is 8 years older than me and we have been together 3 years and I have only just turned 21

[Jenniec]

From his point of view this is a big age gap and it may be he does just see you as a nice kid. But don't give up. I;ve been with my boyfriend for over 5 years and he is 16 years older than me.

Jennie

[crimson.medi]

im feelin exactly the same as u bballwardy7, but the person im in loe with..is 30years older and of the same sex, wat do i do???? its so complicated!! i cnt even come out the closet yet cz im afraid of wat ppl will say