do you hold grudges

[pinkfluffo]

Does anyone hold grudges or do you forget things people have done/said. Do you just let them off or do you stew. I find it very hard to forget things and i think of incidents and things that have angered me that i havent ever brought up or talked about or resolved so i let them fester.....

[China Doll]

You sound old enought to see a counsellor and deal with this yourself and then once you've worked through your issues have a rational conversation with your family about the whole thing and clear the air.

[pinkfluffo]

chinadoll you sound very strong i wish i was like you. I also let people annoy me too easily and generally take things to heart ALL THE TIME in everything people say i feel like they are having a dig and think they are talking about me saying mean things which in turn makes me very anxious and worried about everything. I think i need to be more thick skinned but i always wonder if ive turned out like this because of the past as it seems to have made me the way i am which is totally negative. However i guess i could of been like this anyway who knows.
"people can only wind you up or upset you if you let them and that's giving someone power over you"
Im going to remember that quote and think about it alot as i let people upset me way to easily. Next time someone says something i will replay this in my head and try and be alot stronger although that was supposed to be my new years resolution and that went doen the pan very quickly!

[Answerprancer]

Dothawkes:

"I don't hold grudges, I drop people from my radar, wipe them from my hard drive and never go back".

"That is precisely why i gave the answer I did, people that cross me or my family in the real world I just drop like a stone as they are not true friends and therefore do not deserve to be a part of your life. It makes lt easier if you train yourself to dismiss them from your life pink, it does work".

That seems to me like a very sad and lonely choice. Most people are less than perfect and we rub up against even our dearest friends and family sometimes.
Most people in my experience have redeeming qualities, even if they do rub me up the wrong way sometimes. Personally I rarely bin anyone.

Why should someone who crosses you be deemed not a "true friend"?
The best friends I've ever had are the ones with whom I've had to 'battle it out' occasionally.

It's your choice ultimately and I'm not interested in taking that away from you, I'm just fascinated why someone would think this way.

All the best to you.