Time for grief.

[kitten_uk2]

Hi, ive just lost my dad after he fought MND for nearly 2 years.
later today we are due to see him in the chapel of rest. i dont know wether i should or not. will this be the last time i see my dad?
im so confused at the moment, this has happened in the middle of such a busy week.
im suposed to be attending a wedding on saturday, one of my work colleges. im the only person whos been invited for all of it, because we are close. i dont know wether to go for just some of it,, and if i do, will i be expected to attend work the following day because ive proved im ok. hope you understand my questions,, im just a tad confused about the process,,, i have texd my manager and work friends about his death, but have not spoke to anyone,, i dont know if im ready to talk. xx

[marval]

I am sorry to herar of your loss, I was glad that I went to see my Dad and my Mum, after they died. It was a way of saying goodbye, and they both looked so peaceful. As for the wedding, if you don't feel up to going I am sure your friend will understand. You should be able to take a few days leave from work.

[joko]

i imagine theres a sense of pride in why people sometime appear to choose to wait til theyre alone before going...

as well the desire to save a loved one the heartbreaking sight...you lso yourself dont know what will happen to you...i mean physically...depending whats wrong with you of course...will you scream, gurgle, dribble, convulse, etc etc...and i suppose some may not want people to actually see that...the fear may make it something they prefer to deal with alone...

i realise at that point things like that should be the last thing on your mind...but some people are very private and proud and care a great deal how they look an what people see...

i mean its bad enough having visitors when you are ill...so i imagine this is worse...

so maybe it just happened how they want it, and so dont feel bad...