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yes but if i did that i will be opting out of lovely friends we left behind. its not good, weve deceived friends really by not being up front with them and telling them a different story to protect ourselves i suppose. i chatted to hubby tonight, he just knew friend 2 would blab,shes the type. dont know even to phone her or not now. he did say that we are the two most important people here which i know is right. once certain people know it will escalate. im fed up of trying to keep confidences in people, as my friend says, dogs bark, let them, in this case she was a bitch. i know i tried to play one off against the other, im to blame aswell as my hubby for what he did, i just didnt want our laundry washing in public and ive obviously misjudged someones friendship and now i know a secret is something you tell no one, otherwise its not a secret . i may call friend 2 tomorrow who claims she is annoyed with me for not telling her ive told friend one, but i did tell her down the line she knew some of it. i dont want to get on the wrong side of her in case she sees it as revenge as ive peed her off so she goes blabbing even more. maybe she is just curious to find out who else i have told.