Lies

[carliex]

So yesterday I was making an important phone call while my partner took my daughter in the other room (not her dad) his phone bleeped so I picked it up saw a girls name, I handed it to him and said you have a txt as iv always trusted him I thought nothing of it as I no he new this girl. When he opened the txt he said oh it's just phil from work :-s so I said no it wasnt I saw who it was why did u lie? He said he wasn't lieing and made me question myself on what I saw! after an hour he told me he lied to save me from gettin hurt about a girl txting him! iv never ever not trusted him as we have the best relationship ever! So I don't understand if he has nothing to hide why he thought I'd be upset? anyone eles think this??

[micmak]

I suggest you have a long think about what to do next. Some people are stirring it for you. It's your life YOU decide what to believe. Then get on with it.

[ummmm]

I think it's very harsh to write him off as a rat from this one incident.

[carliex]

I didn't ask to see the txt! I'm not good at things like this Im shocked put of everyone I no id never in a million years think he would ever lie to me! So I just didn't ask him I just took his work fir it that it just said hey how are u, and that he was in shock that she txt him cus she never txts him anymore so he sort of panicked incase I got upset about it. But iv had time to think well it's all iv thought about and now I wish I'd asked to see!

[ummmm]

Has he still got the text?

Personally I think you're being a little OTT with it. It was a small lie and he fessed up and explained.

[elliemay1]

I still think you should ask to see the text. Also, teddyboy stay out of it as you're not helping. Can't you see that Carlie is upset.

[Teddy_boy]

I can see there is more than one opinion of how carliex is reacting, not only yours elliemay.

[elliemay1]

ok, teddy boy, point taken!

[Teddy_boy]

And in all honesty some humour might help cheer her up?

[elliemay1]

I really hope it does as I feel for her.

[rowanwitch]

Hard as it seems when you get your head together you need to sit down with him and explain how worried you are..and that the fact he felt he needed to lie to you..especially as he said it was something trivial when he did finally own up has shaken you very badly. Tell him that you can understand he might have been caught off guard but there is no place for dishonesty in a good relationship and tell him you expect him to respect that.

If there's a next time start considering pest control as that would make him a rat..

Hope it works out ok of course he might just be a bit flattered to have a younger woman texting him so doesn't really want to discourage it... if thats the case maybe he needs to stop and think about what kind of idiot that makes him....

[MRsnail]

what is he hiding then > check his phone when he is out he is a rat

[scraggy55]

Its a text message! Just because a female texts a male doesn't mean they are having an affair! He probably just was nervous of your reaction to a 'female' texting him - and by the sound of it, he probably was right to be worried. Just because a text is from a woman, doesn't mean there is something weird going on. I don't understand why you would suddenly be mis trusting of him?