When u meet a new potential bf/gf

[tinkerbell23]

Do u think you should want to rip their clothes off there and then LOL

Or does that develop in ur opinion x

[Sqad]

pau__la

I still don't understand.............you spent your informative years only looking for a "meaningful relationship".............no sex......just a "meaningful relationship?"

Have I got that right?

So.......you have only had sex with that "special one".......I have i got THAT right?

[Sqad]

\\\\\\sex is a hurried 2 minute jobby and is not worth it in the long run!\\\\

Oh! dear oh! dear

[NOX]

I think the quesiton is being interpreted by different people differently- it was about potential girlfriends etc NOT about one night stands where it';s for the sex only and you know that from the get go- if we were talking about sex generally then certainly my answer would have been different- nothing wrong with torrid nasty recreational sex, just don't think I'd be looking only for that with a relationship- I'd have to make sure she had a brain as well.

[Ankou]

sqad, stop playing milky milky on your thighs. dear oh dear.

i imagine paul bonked away his teenage years as much as anyone else. just that some meant nothing and the challenging ones meant more.

sex sex sex, thats all you think about.

[Sqad]

NOX....LOL....good point.....but a "potential girlfriend" doesn't mean a "meaningful relationship".....does it?

In my younger days, i had "girl friends" but many of them i could NEVER have set up home with.

[Sqad]

LOL

[LoftyLottie]

Can't imagine my OH ever discussing his sex life with anybody, not even male friends, let alone on a website, bless him and he is a very attractive bloke - women still look at him!!

[Ankou]

"In my younger days, i had "girl friends" but many of them i could NEVER have set up home with."

cliche of the year ?

i think we have all been there.

[NOX]

Ah now to me it does you see- I'll happily have sex with women casually but I never have them as girlfriends in that case- the only time I see a girl more than once is if I think there might be something sustainable I wan't in my life full time- it's not fair to give people the impressin you're interested in them if all you want is sex- so I just keep it to the once.

[albaqwerty]

never mind setting up home, would you have taken them to meet your parents?

[Sqad]

alba

\\\never mind setting up home, would you have taken them to meet your parents?\\

Of course....and have done......the problem comes, when they take YOU to see their parents........the father usually susses you out ;-)

[Sqad]

NOX

\\\\I'll happily have sex with women casually but I never have them as girlfriends in that case-\\\

You will happily have one night stands, but will steadfastly refuse to all them "girlfriends"

I can live with that.

[Sqad]

^^^ call them

[Ankou]

well thank the heavens, and there was me thinking you might keel over with the concept.



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[pa___ul3]

ha, ankou's got it right, but not my teens, my 20's, I didn't really have a lot of joy until I lost my hair. I only consider 'girlfriends' as girls I've been in a relationship with, of which I'd say I've had 2 proper ones and about 3 sort of's, anything outside of that was for shitz n gigz and that's all.
I know you want to paint me as mr whiter than white which is the reason I may claim to have respect for women when I post on here so that you can continue to convince yourself that normal men throw it in anything but I've been a tool too, had my fun, which I think helped me mature into someone who's very, very happy to be monogamous. I think if you saw her you'd understand a bit more too, she's a belter, which made the chase even more worthwhile!!

[NOX]

Yes because they aren't girlfriends- I would never allow anyone to think I was interested in going out with them when in fact I just want to have sex with them knowing they are not what I want in a partner- that's really cruel actually- I wouldn't want that done to me- this way everyone knows exactly that it's recreational sex only and no-one gets hurt. I know exactly whether a woman is girlfriend material almost as soon as I meet her because I'm really hard to please, people have to fit a very strict criteria as to their politics, freedom of thought, kindness etc- doesn't matter about things like social status - but a racist, cruel person etc I couldn't even bear to touch, it would revolt me.

[LoftyLottie]

Paul, I think there are many men that think and have acted exactly as you do. I have two in my immediate family, husband and son. Unfortunately, it's the other type of men that shout the loudest and there is a lot to be said for what Helen said earlier. Most men I know respect women fortunately and I am not an old fogey - most of my son's friends do.

[pa___ul3]

I know Lottie, most of my mates are the same, some aren't, there does seem to be a correlation too to be honest, not that I'm suggesting sqad is the desperate type but it's always seemed to me that those, male and female, who've lived their 'informative years' taking what they can get will continue to take what they can get even when they shouldn't, a lot of it is about security.

[Ankou]

agree paul, one of my very good friends still goes around sleeping with anything and everything. he's never had a 'proper' girlfriend for anything more than a few days - mainly because he is selfishand tight with women and always looking for the next shag. but every now and again he has a mini-breakdown about how he wishes he could settle down and have a family just like all of us (his mates). i think its just about growing up as you said at 10.57.