Heartbroken…….but I Can’T Stay Friends With Someone So Prejudiced

[GymLadTim]

I have a best friend called Kelly – we met at school and have been close for about 6 years. We have been through so much together and have stayed close despite the ups and downs. Kelly is caring, funny and fantastic company. I thought we would remain close until the day we died – well I did until last Saturday. Now I am questioning if I even want to ever see or speak to that little monster again.

I always thought Kelly was a woke young woman who would fight against prejudice. She was the first one to condemn any racism or unfairness of any kind. But on Saturday night after a few drinks she let it slip that she would not date a man who had a vagina.

I froze and asked her to repeat herself. Kelly knows perfectly well that the fight against genital preference is something I take seriously – I thought we both did. This attitude is transphobic and not accepting of the transgender community. Genital preference is rooted in discrimination and excludes trans men who may not for whatever reason want to go through surgery or who have not yet transitioned. THESE PEOPLE DESERVE TO IDENTIFY AS WHO THEY REALLY ARE NOT WHO YOU WANT THEM TO BE!!

I asked Kelly speaking very slowly if you met a man who was absolutely perfect in every way and loved you completely would you leave him because of genital preference. She said “yes” and I just walked away from her. Why should a transgender man have to disclose the genitals they have at the start of a relationship – no one else has to talk about their genitals on the first date. This is discrimination.

Now I am just totally reconsidering if I want any relationship with Kelly and it kills me to type that I mean she was my rock. Maybe the whole woke thing was just to be trendy and not because she really cares. She called me this morning and doubled down on not being attracted to vaginas – she said “ether you accept it or you don’t”. I calmly said to her “Kelly you don’t love men you love cis men and you love the very privilege that puts you on a pedestal. Now go away you nasty little monster”.

This situation is really devastating to me because remember this is my best friend. I would never want to be friends with a racist, a homophobe or a sexist. I mean I would speak with them because I feel dialogue is always needed to turn misguided people around but I wouldn’t want to be best friends with them or anything until they had renounced their views. In fact I do speak with a few racists and sexists I’m not scared to swap ideas with anyone.

Sorry for ranting, not really a question at all just needed to get this off my chest.

Broken

[yogi-bear]

True, best friends are hard to come by.....everyone is entitled to an opinion, and if you don't realise that, GLT, you're going to find, that in life, you will isolate any friends you have, not only now, but ever get in the future.

[cashier]

I agree with pixie, Kelly is much better off without you.

[jim360]

"Just flicked through the thread, and Jim's //and I say this as a recognised expert on that front // has to be one of the funniest things I have ever seen on this site"

Glad you picked up on it Pixie. :)

[spathiphyllum]

“Woke”
A word currently used to describe "consciousness" and being aware of the truth behind things "the man" doesn't want you to know i.e. classism, racism, and any other social injustices. The term comes from a genuine place but is becoming overused. People mainly use it to sound like deep thinkers when they are really just following a trend.

[Mamyalynne]

Piers Morgans loves the word, an excellent reason for me at least to ignore it.

[douglas9401]

//“Woke”
A word currently used to describe "consciousness" and being aware of the truth behind things "the man" doesn't want you to know i.e. classism, racism, and any other social injustices. The term comes from a genuine place but is becoming overused. People mainly use it to sound like deep thinkers when they are really just following a trend.//

And never grasped tenses in school, y'all.

[spathiphyllum]

I copied that from online.

Woke is just a byword for social awareness.

Trip heads would compare it to the third eye being open.

[Mamyalynne]

Probably.

[Zacs-Master]

Sad state of affairs when a stupid, obviously wind-up question gets 120 + answers.

[HansUrbancka]

I have been thinking that perhaps this is a wind-up thread. The 'facts' don't appear to ring true.

In fact, from GLT's comments, I may have missed whether he has a point; or has lost his manhood.

Hans.

[Baldric]

I've read some, most of this, but I started to lose the will to live, so let's bring it down to basics, no Man has a vagina, how simple is that, just cut the carp?

[Mamyalynne]

Hans, if you've found a lost one - put it aside as a spare.

[spathiphyllum]

Also...

"Real" define : (of a thing) not imitation or artificial; genuine.