missing him

[charlotte247]

right ok.... this is a long story
i met this guy at work......we both really liked each other.....so we got together and it was the most amazing few weeks of my life, but then i found out he had a kid with another woman, this woman kept calling me and txting me telling me to leave him alone, so i asked him about it, and he said that he doesnt want to be with her he wants to be with me, then a few days back i got a call off this girl and she said they are back together, so as u can guess i was mad, so i had a go at him at work, but he was really insistent that he didnt mean to hurt me!
now, his gf has his phone so i cant contact him, i really miss him, i see him go past in his car, he only lives round the corner, i really miss him, i just want to talk to him, any ideas?
thanks x

[melons]

hiya Charlotte247,
bit of a web for you isnt it. do you work with him? have you maybe tried seeing him at work again?
I personally think you sound to good for him. He should have been honest about the kid and not let you find out by her phoning you! she sounds quite mental!
let me know what you have tried.

[MiniN]

why not send him an email? or like melons suggested, talk to him in work. your better off without a guy who is going to flit back and forth between women!

[charlotte247]

well, he has left work now, it was either me or him, so he went, his girlfriend is following me around, she sat outside where we (past tense) work just to make sure we werent doing anything.
she called my family and told them i was having an affair and that they were married,
i know for definate they arent married,
i cant see him at work now, so what do i do ? ive got myself into a pickle here!
x

[charlotte247]

and plus i dont know his email adress, or whether he even has an email account!

[MiniN]

if your that desperate to see him why not go see him at home when his gf is out. but i think your wasting your time....hes obviously not interested if hes with her now and hasnt been in touch...

go find yourself a nice new fella

x

[melons]

right firstly tell her to back right off - honestly she sounds like an idiot.
If she keeps hasseling you then just say to her that it take 2 to tango and that you didnt hear him complaining! Actually not the best idea! just got a bit carried away........
Ok so he has left work. Does he go out with out her? have you seen him in the car on his own? Corner shop anywhere like that? try an dget him on his own. easier said than done i suppose.
Does his other half work?

[charlotte247]

i have seen him several times, twice on his own and once with her, i dont know if she works, she must do if she has a kid to look after.
i was guna go round but then im a bit screwed if shes there, its just guna cause more hassle if she is.
im really confused as what to do, i cant just forget about him, trust me i have tried, i dont want anybody else, im being arkward to you nice people who are trying to help me but i really have tried everythin

[MiniN]

write him a letter then, just make sure the envelope looks very official and she wont open it.

or ring him at his new job, im sure some of his old colleagues will know where he works now.

can i ask what you'd say to him if you see him?

[charlotte247]

id tell him i miss him and i want him back, i know its not going to do any good, but i just want him to know. his gf fed him a web of lies, that i was just using him to get a good status (hes older than me) and he fell for it, im just worried that ive lost him for the wrong reason. thannks for your help anyway. i was his only colleague, i work at a chinese takeaway and he was the delivery driver there, so its not like anyone else will know.
ARGH!
thanks !
x

[melons]

dont go to his house beacuse she might come abck and go mental!
Get him when he is own his own, call his name and then talk to him.
personally he is treating you like rubbish, he has played you both. i dont know him but he doesnt sound like he is worth bothering with. Show him you dont want, need, care about him. x

[charlotte247]

thank you so much i will take your advice into account!
THANKS! ill let you know what happens and if i come out of it alive!
xxx

[efc]

It sounds to me like he's made his choice! Think about his child. Does his child not have a right to have his father around? I think you should leave well alone!

[cartman99]

Why didnt he tell you about the child?

You spent 2 amazing weeks together emotionaly connecting but he neglects to tell you?

How did you find out?