Did something I shouldn't have with some I shouldn't have!

[AnnaLucas]

Made the catastrophic mistake of sleeping with best friend's on-off boyfriend last week. She has now dumped him on account of knowing he slept with someone last week, she then told a friend of ours that she knows who he slept with and that it is someone she (the friend) knows. She is acting totally normally with me but I'm starting to think she knows it was me and is just trying to see how long it takes before I cave in and tell her.

Should I tell her? All advice welcome!!!

[JK04]

Yes you should tell her and also take the beating that you'l probably get.

[flip_flop]

and deserve.

[darlingnc]

i think your "best friend" should give you both a good whack, people shouldnt put up with cheapo's like you for friends.

[river]

Slightly more constructive advice...could you speak to the friend that knows who it is? OR you could just tell her and what a mistake it was etc but be prepared for some rough times, she prob wont take it lightly.

It's better you tell her than he tells her out of spite!

[whiskeysheri]

Tell her. It's unlikely she'll forgive you, but I would say there's more chance of it if you're big enough to admit what you've done, rather than to humiliate her further by letting her find out from someone else down the line.

[Le Chat]

If you tell her, you'll lose a friend. If you don't, it will only be a matter of time. You're damned if you do, and you're damned if you don't.
You should never, ever shag a friends boyfriend. It is a huge NO NO! It means that you are no friend. What were you thinking?

[jelly.belly.]

You made a mistake...

I don't see why people are condemning what you did, that's up to your mate to do. But you really should just get it over with and tell her.

[Jillius]

If he's a pig enough to tell her it was you then just deny it !
It's only his word against yours. And then let it be a lesson learned !

[Tichfield]

Whas he an on boyfriend or an off boyfriend when you did it?

He's off now though.

Do you not want to take him on yourself?

[JK04]

Well if he did tell her, he's obviously more honest than her friend.

[4getmenot]

I dont agree with the hitting people, thats wrong and maybe your friend is grown up enough to realise that and just walk away, and she'd be a bigger person than you not that that would take much. If it was me you would be my friend no longer.

[London.Girl]

You should just re-locate.

Or you could tell her you were drunk and wasn't aware of your actions.

Or you could plead insanity.

Why did you do it anyway ? Do you not like this friend you called your best friend and wanted to hurt her ?

[JK04]

I somehow get the feeling we have frightened this AnnaLucas off and she'l not be back to answer any of our questions about it!
Pity...

[China Doll]

You've cocked up massively... should I guess alcohol was involved and you don't in fact have very seriousl loving feelings towards said bloke?

However cocking up doesn't make you a bad person. Try and find out if she knows it was you. If she does come clean, if she believes it was someone else and you're 100% certain she'll never find then it might be best to let sleeping dogs lie. I've never seen the point to ruining someone elses happiness becasue you have a guilty conscience.

The most stupid thing you can do out of this whole situation is not learn something from it. In this instance, don't p1ss on your own doorstep or your neighbours. Don't beat yourself up, you did a bad thing but it doesn't define you. Just don't do it again!

[tattoomaster]

after what i,v just been through i dont think i should tell what i think as it wont be nice

[Skreecheeboy]

Don't say anything unless she asks you straight out. A man cheating on a woman is anatomically much less bad than a woman cheating on a man. Women can have stuff swimming around them for days, all we need is a quick wash and that's the offending bodily fluids gone. Morally perhaps they're both on a par in your mind but I totally believe it hurts men more to find out they've been cheated on for the simple fact that it's easy for a woman to get laid and not quite so easy for guys so guys cherish what they've got more. (apart from that torag you pumped)