am i stupid?

[cuddleMe]

god i feel soo stupid, i just found out more about this guy, hes been playing the game, he is still dating other girls, i feel sorry for his gf (which i only just found out,he was seeing me since summer 2007,but all along he he had a gf), hes a sleeze! im glad im out. shes just moved in with him, will he stay faithful? i dont think so, he sounds like the guy i work with, sleeze bag, he is doing the same thing and he seems proud! wish i've never agreed to meet this fella, although i couldnt resist, hes too dam good, shame about in bed though. ive lost confident dating now, are all guys the same? they date as many girls at once ? then decides? if it was the other way round then we are labeled a slag! should i tell his gf? mayb i should leave it, ??advice?

[China Doll]

I personally wouldn't tell his girlfriend as I think if you're honest with yourself you wouldn't be doing it because of any concern for her but rather because your pride is hurt. Also, no one ever knows what goes on behind closed doors, it could be she knows all about him and is overlooking it.

This guy is a waste of space as far as what you want in life goes. You sound like you want love and a companion and someone to make you feel secure and part of something. That's not a bad thing but this guy is sure as heck not the one to give you that.

And no, not all men are the same as all women are not the same. You got a bad one, thre's better out there. Are you going to punish yourself by giving up on love because you got burnt once? That would be like letting this guy dictate your life and that would be silly. Your confidence will return, take things slowly, enjoy the positive aspects of being single, have fun and see what happens.

[cuddleMe]

thanks for your advice china, i am very insecure when it comes to relationships, im not exactly pretty, or anything, but i tend to fall for really good looking guys he is obviously will flirt n stuff with other girls, he prob think he wont get find out but he will. i tend to get scared that hes only using me, most of the time they are!! mayb because it takes longer for me to trust a guy n like to take things slowly, thats prob why he got bored and went to play along with other fragile girls

i could of done something really stupid. you see i go pass his house at least once a week, i dont know his gf at all, but i have her phone number and her email address! well i hope she knows what hes been up to. it was strange how i got it!!

i have given up dating for now, i dont enjoy being single cos all the people around me are in a relationship. i dont think there are any decent guys in Leeds anymore, i should move out of this city!! but i dont think i could trust any guy anymore, i just want some fun kinda relationship from now.

[mirela]

i tend to fall to really good looking guys only when i was in younger ages, young girls always shallow. but once you growing up, you should know there are things far more imporant than apperance. well, in realistic way, of course you'd be with someone attractive to you, but gott be someone can gain your respect and they can respect u also.
dont blame yourself, sometimes there is also about luck as well, you probly just met a bustard, doesnt mean gonna happen again in ur next relationship.
ern, about his gf's detail, im not sure u should tell her or not, if me, i probly will.

[cuddleMe]

well its not just the looks, we connected and had alot of things in common, they normally accept the way i am,but there are times i think they are using me (most or the time they are).but this time when i met this person i really thought he meant it,he compliments me and put confident in me. now thinking back how can i stil like this person after what hes done? im going to forget him, even though there are unanswered questions that he keeps avoiding but i think i can answer for him,coming out from his mouth would have been better though. but who cares, i feel sorrry for his gf, i really should tell her, but its nothing to do with me. if he finds out that i was me then it could turn to something nasty, cos hes kinda phyco, he can do anything!!

[mirela]

from what you said, you should be glad you found out the truth and left him now, just dont blame yourself, they just bad guys, i know how you feel, how hurt it can be, when someone convinced you how much he is loving you, but messing around at same time, you should feel lucky you are not his gf!! time will cure everything, just give yourself more time, dont in rush into another relationship, spend time with ur family and friends, think about what you are looking for from a relationshp, and start again, dont give up, there are nice guys out there as well.hugs xxx

[chiswisik]

are you a bunny gravy? or maybe a bunny boiler lol

[cuddleMe]

i hate carrots! yuck!

[figure]

Tsk! Tsk! Tsk! Gravi. You silly bunny lol
I love carrots too.

[Louisa 69]

Hi cuddleme, i wouldn't say anything to his girlfriend, he's probably got his back covered there anyway and you would just come off looking like the bad one. His girlfriend probably has a good enough idea on what he is like anyway.

Give yourself time to get over him, believe me you will. In the mean time start doing things you enjoy and arrange some girlie nights out.

Not all guys are like him, there are some good ones out there. Think positive. Good luck.

[cuddleMe]

louisa

thanks for that, everyone has been saying the same, im well over him!!! i dunno but i seem to feeel sooo much better today i dont know why. hes not worth the stress, and im not going to say anything to his gf or anyone cos im out and dont want to be involved anymore! sensible idea :D the atmosphere at wrk today is good, n the guys at work r flirting with me and they like my new look, (my hair is sooo short with cool colours on them :) ) and my new image! lol but they already have gf's! oh well. no harm to flirt at work is there?, i know its not going to lead to anything cos i dont fancy them lol

[ftj001]

You really shouldn't take advice from me because I've been cheated on by my husband, but I would want someone to tell me if my man was out there cheating. I tried reaching out to the women my husband was cheating with and she did not want to talk to me, it was almost as if she was protecting him. Anyway, If you feel stupid now don't make the same mistake twice. I would say tell her but I would hate for someone to go through the devastation that I'm going through now! Sorry u were subjected to such scum! You deserve better!

[cuddleMe]

ftj001

thks for that, but i dont really care anymore even if i see him with another person and beleive its not his 'current' gf, i wont say anything, its his life and nowt to do with me and the scum is well n truely out of my life,
im out to meet someone whos aint obsess with work and get to have fun together! i think its my lucky weekend :) xx