friends?

[wonderwhy]

i thought i had a close friend, but should i just get the message? we used to chat all the time, and i've met her a few times, but recently. i'm the one that contacts her, she used to contact me all the time. but for the past few weeks is very quiet, which is not like her. should i just get the message?????

[China Doll]

Not necessarily, do you know what's been going on in her life? Has she been particularly busy of late? Has anything happened at home? If you're not sure then try asking her what's going on as it really could be as simple as the answer to any of the questions I've put. Sometimes life just gets in the way.

If you speak to her and it's nothing to do with that then ask her outright if there's a problem, if you're close friends then I'm sure she'll put your mind at rest. If she doesn't think enough of you to answer sensibly then perhaps the friendship is her loss and not yours.

Good luck.

[GIRL RACERS]

Well said.

[mirela]

agree with china, there can be many reasons she not in touch lots, but if you are good mates, whats the matter who is in touch whom first. if you do worry, maybe arrange to meet up and ask her if she is ok at moment.

[MiniN]

about a year a go a friend acted like this towards me and my best friend.

we asked her why she was ignoring our calls or not wanting to meet up when we would finally get a hold of her and she would pretend nothing was wrong.

so i suggest trying to talk to her and get her to tell you if she's just busy or if somethings bothering her.

to this day we still don't know why she dropped us.

true friends stay through thick and thin, the ones that don't aren't worth the worry.

[wonderwhy]

thank you, i have asked her and she replied that there is not a problem, so i get the message her loss.

[redders01]

this happened to me and in the end i gave up on her. id been with her through thick and thin and then she had a baby by an ex who was no good and met a new man who took her in, so i assume she associated me with her old crappy life and therefore needed me out of her life in order to move on. her loss, same as you, so keep that in mind!