Am I making the right choice?

[Jamie29]

I've lived with my g/f for a few years. We've got 4 kids at home. When we met I was all up for the wedding lark. Truest thing anyone ever said to me was, 'you don't know someone until you live with them.' I love her, but (and there's always a 'but') at times I've been subjected to domestic violence. Sure someone's going to post I'm a plum for letting her hit me. I just don't hit women. I've left her a few times, but always went back for the children. Why should I be the one who misses out on playtime and kissing them goodnight, because she can't control her temper? I moved back in last night and swore it's the last time I walk away. None of my family or close mates think I should be there anymore. I can't desert my children. I'm responsible for them, so why does it have to come down to living in fear at times just to be with them?

[Jamie29]

4 get, Lorla, Leela & Banjo thank you all. I'll get back to pms when things get better. Wish I knew they would.
It should feel better but it doesn't. My sister settles my kids no problems. They must hate me. It's like they know what I've done. My youngest daughter is difficult without being unsettled like this. I'm staying strong. Going to cut this short. I'm no good tonight.

[Jamie29]

Redhead I agree it's not right. I won't be looking for a very long time.

[banjosister]

Jamie,

My kids are now 23 and 16 we've been through some crap over the years.

I have (mostly) been the consistant one in their lives, the eldest really appreciates this and the younger one is getting there.

It may take a while but they will understand and appreciate everything you have done.

In time.

I know that sometimes it feels like there is no light at the end of the tunnel but you will get there. Stay strong

BB xx

[Babyblues]

I understand that your children are important you don't have to put up with abuse just to be with your kids if she is abusing what is she doing to children maybe she should go to angewr management classes. I am sorry if I stepped out of line with that question but you have to wonder. I think it takes atrue man not to hit her back when she is hitting you but to stay and take it only make you a victim. Your children should not have to be around that sort of stuff they deserve better. You deserve better. and this is just my otipion but if she is like that then you should take the kids and go. they are yours and it sounds like they would be better off.